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Cash the checks in a timely manner please!!!

I went to a wedding on the 16th of October and didn't have time to put cash in the card since it was a Friday wedding so I wrote a check. They still haven't cashed it!!! Please everyone, deposit checks as soon as possible after your wedding!!!

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 9:55 AM | Vendors are allowed to participate

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Tracey

Wedding: 05/22/2011

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Not-A-Bridezilla

Wedding: 05/15/2010

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 10:02 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
LOL that's so rude!! I have a feeling I will be on the other end and will be cashing that check the second we're back from the honeymoon... they aren't still on their honeymoon are they? It's been awhile so I doubt it but some people take 2 week long honeymoons...

linahpooh

Wedding: 08/06/2011

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 10:03 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I am getting married on a saturday, not leaving for my honeymoon til Tuesday because Im depositing my money first thing Monday morning! I dont play with people and their checks!

linahpooh

Wedding: 08/06/2011

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 10:05 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
@notabridezilla, you better try to deposit those checks before you leave! I dont like sitting on checks!

Not-A-Bridezilla

Wedding: 05/15/2010

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 10:07 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Well assuming we have a honeymoon we're going to be leaving right after the wedding... and we'll only be gone for 4-5 days-- a week tops. I don't think that's too long to deposit a check. I would say that the person mentioned in the above post has waited too long to cash theirs!

Tracey

Wedding: 05/22/2011

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 10:11 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I know they didn't go on a honeymoon so I'm getting a little annoyed. I know there's no problem with the funds in my account but now I'm worrying I was in such a rush I forgot to sign it or something but I wish they would let me know! I'm going to only do cash from now on!!!

andrea

Wedding: 03/06/2010

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 10:13 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I'm having a destination wedding, so checks are going to have to wait until we return home about a week later.

Tracey

Wedding: 05/22/2011

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 10:31 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
A week is fine but we're going on 2 weeks now ... and I understand if they left immediately for a honeymoon but oh, well. I'll just have to wait and see!

Laura K.

Married: 05/15/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 10:40 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Who did you write the check out to? We had a couple people complain that we hadn't cashed their checks yet but it was because they had written the check to BOTH of us and it became a nightmare to cash them. I had started the process of changing to my married name but I had to wait for the new driver's license to get mailed to me and then after that I had to get the account name changed, all of this took time, and it was after we'd gotten back from our honeymoon. SO yes it took about a month before I COULD cash any check that were written to BOTH of us! I never thought of that as a wedding guest before myself. So now when I give a check at a wedding I write it out ONLY to the groom because I know his name will be the same after the wedding. Recently a friend said mine was the ONLY check she didn't have a problem cashing. I don't know if this is the case here but I'm just saying there are good reasons that might be holding them up from cashing it. I'm sure they're not trying to be rude

Jamie J.

Wedding: 05/01/2010

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 10:48 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I am having that same issue right now. I went to a wedding the first weekend in Oct and wrote ONLY the groom the check because like Laura said I knew it would take time for the bride to change her name. They still have not cashed my check. Luckily I am good with my finances and take into account that check but its still annoying.

guerita

Wedding: 05/15/2010

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 11:14 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Wow! Thanks for the tip. Who knew it would be so difficult to get what is yours.

Jadw1999

Wedding: 05/01/2010

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 11:43 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Our wedding is on a Saturday. We are leaving for our honeymoon on the Monday following so we will make sure the checks are deposited before we leave that Monday.

andrea

Wedding: 03/06/2010

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 11:51 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Worse though? I had a couple cash a check the following Monday... and not send a thank you for 11 MONTHS.

reddiva22

Wedding: [Private]

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 11:58 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I used to work at a bank, and if there is a check written to 2 ppl for cash, these were the following rules in cashing a check like this: 1. Both parties (the 2 ppl that the check is written to) have to be present and show proper ID 2. they both need to sign the back of the check But then again, it depends if they are just deposting into thier joint account, if so then they don't need ID or anything. Then again, every bank has different guidlines for this... but that was just at my bank.

Mrs. Sarah Halliwell

Married: 10/03/2009
Reviews: 10

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 11:59 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
we went a two week long honeymoon and havent cashed all the cheques yet. the ones we havent cashed are made out ot Sarah & Brandon halliwell (my name isnt chnaged yet so the bank wont let me deposot them) an dthe otehr half is just made out to Sarah Halliwell, which agin cant be deposited until my name is chnaged. so ya it does suck but i think that a reasonable excuse!!

RavenK

Wedding: 09/04/2010

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 2:09 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Ack! I didn't think about checks. Our bank is miltary credit union and they don't have branches in my state (or any close surrounding ones for that matter) Most check cashing places wanna charge more than the check is to cash the dang thing....Glad you posted this so I can think of a nice way to say no checks please...ugh that's kind of rude tho. :( Maybe call them in another week and just say that you wanted to be sure they didn't have any trouble since it hadn't pulled from your account yet??

Shell

Married: 06/27/2009

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 2:24 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
it isnt rude to NOT cash a check right away. often people go on honeymoons right after the wedding and cant cash it. and then if the name on the check it to MR and Mrs_____ its almost impossible to cash it because of the length of time it takes to the marrige cert back and get the propwer name chanegs on an ID that will allow the bank to cash it. make checks out to the groom or bride only so that they dont have to deal with this drama when they get back from the honeymoon.

Shell

Married: 06/27/2009

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 2:27 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
proper*

Ravenbird

Wedding: 05/28/2011

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 3:11 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I am with Laura My cousin couldn't cash her check for a few months after the wedding due to people writing to Mrs and Mr Hayse. Man what would have happened if she decided not to change her name lol that would have been fun. When it come to me and I can't give money I either send to one or they other.

Soon2BMrsP

Wedding: 03/20/2010

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 3:16 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
yep, i'm siding with laura here...not just that, keep in mind, that some banks, require personal checks be held...our bank, will only release checks under $100 immediately, anything over that, they release just $50 and can hold the balance of the check, for up to 30 freakin days...we learned that the hard way last christmas...talk about angry! and of course, when writing a check to a newly married couple, either write it to the one you know the most, or write it in the groom's name...another thing, if you're mainly friends with the bride, make sure you write her MAIDEN name on the check, because her account won't be changed until after her wedding, and her bank may either refuse to cash/deposit it, or may hold it until after the name change comes through. friends that just got married, ended up having to ask her grandmother to take her check back, and send a money order, because their bank(BOA) refused to cash it, since it was in 2 names, and they didn't have a joint account yet...

CelticChick831

Married: 10/17/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 3:24 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
The name thing is a HUGE issue and people dont realize it when they write checks. I got lucky because I personally know several people at the bank where I go and so does my husband. We were able to cash everything only because we added him to my bank account, showed them a copy of the marriage license which they filed and we both had to sign every check. If they didnt know us personaly they wouldnt have let us do it. Credit union banks are the worse because they might take it if its written out to Mike and Alanna Guy, but if its Mr and Mrs Guy, I would have to wait for my new license which im getting friday. Since you know they didnt go on a honeymoon and if you dont think the name thing is an issue, call them to make sure your card/check wasnt lost. I had a lot that got stuck in with gift bags because they fell out of the basket during transport and we waited over a week to open the gifts. Could still be in the trunk too. lol

Soon2BMrsP

Wedding: 03/20/2010

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 3:28 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
hey ravenk! is that usaa, NFCU or pacmar?!!! lol we have usaa(branch ONLY in san antonio), and nfcu, and there are NO branches anywhere!!!!!

Marcy G

Wedding: 05/15/2010

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 3:55 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
only been two weeks I would get a little annoyed if it went over a month. we keep about 5k in the checking account so a few hundred won't cause us to bounce a check.

weliz

Married: 10/03/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 3:59 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
It is only polite to deposit checks as soon as possible, but you do have to cut people a bit of slack with wedding checks. The couple needs time for a honeymoon, and then has to go through all the presents and make their lists for thank yous, and then they have to physically get to the bank. And chances are, they'll have trouble depositing checks until the woman changes her name on the account, and it's even worse if they don't already have a joint account! It can take WEEKS to get everything straight so the bank will accept a check, especially one written to Mr. AND Mrs. so-and-so, rather than Mr. OR Mrs. so-and-so. Since you can't control how people write out their checks, you just do the best you can with getting them deposited as soon as you can. Fortunately my husband and I already had a joint account so we could deposit checks by just saying "deposit only" on the back, they still hesitated a bit because the account had my maiden name on it but ultimately accepted the checks.

CelticChick831

Married: 10/17/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 4:02 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
ravenk, if you want to open a small pnc account if there are any in your area. if you get the vertial wallet there are no minimum balances and you can link another bank to it for outside transfers. I linked my husbands credit union to mine so he could deposit checks faster since the closest bank for him was well over an hour a way. He just had to sign the check, then I sign the check and schedule the transfer. Takes a total of about 3-5 days per transfer for the money to get there.

weliz

Married: 10/03/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 4:08 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Great idea CelticChick! I also suggest that if people intend to have a joint account anyway once they are married, they consider opening one up before the wedding. Yes, it's one more place you have to inform of your name change, but it makes other things so much easier!

Traci_Bob

Wedding: 06/12/2010

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 4:21 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I was just recently added to his account so from what Celtic said, if you have a copy of the marriage certificate, it can (not saying it will, people know us pretty good also at our bank) make it easier? How do you get a copy of the ceritficate? Do you get one before your officient mails it?

Tracey

Wedding: 05/22/2011

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 4:26 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I did only write the check to his name and I knew the couple wasn't going on a honeymoon so I'm just frustrated. I wouldn't be mad if they went on a two week honeymoon but why on earth can't they just take the check in? My wedding will be on a Sunday and we're leaving for the honeymoon on Wednesday so I plan on going to the bank Monday morning and depositing all the checks right away.

Laura K.

Married: 05/15/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 4:30 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Maybe they're waiting to be able to deposit them all at once? There are a ton of reasons they could be delayed, just deduct it from your account and don't worry about it Tracy you don't get your marriage certificate until your officiant mails it in and the county mails it back to you, that's why if someone writes the check to your married name it can take a while until you can cash the check. We had a lot of problems with it, my bank is a stickler for rules, which I guess is a good thing for my protection. I never thought of this stuff until I got married!

Esgal4life

Wedding: [Private]

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 4:33 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I saw Laura already explained... so I agree, maybe they're just having some issues with other checks and wasn't able to get to yours yet.. maybe call them but in a nice way hint about maybe why they haven't cashed it.. I understand your frustration, but getting married, honeymoon or not, it is an exciting and forgetful time at the same time I'm sure... Hang in there, maybe give it another week or so and then call them....

CelticChick831

Married: 10/17/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 4:35 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
our county gives us 3 copies of the wedding certificate with ther certified stanp on on all of them. One for the county, one for the reverend and one for us. So we had ours that day.

The Potters

Married: 09/12/2009
Reviews: 8

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 4:35 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Are you kidding? Cashing the checks was one of the first things we did! lol The only thing that was sort of hard was people who wrote them out to me with my new last name. I couldn't cash those yet, because according to everything else I wasn't a Potter yet.

Shell

Married: 06/27/2009

Posted On: Oct 29, 2009 at 5:55 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
well its only been 2 weeks... maybe they lost it? i would give it 2 more weeks and then call to see that they got it. i gave a check to a friend and it NEVER got deposited. turned out she had lost it so i had to send her a new one... and i never even got a thank you LOL

J.J

Wedding: 09/10/2011

Posted On: Nov 04, 2009 at 9:07 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I agree with Shell, give it 2 more weeks. I would say that a month is ample amount of time to get the cards sorted out and the checks cashed. That first month is a very busy one and like some ladies said there are lots of things that have to be sorted out during that time. Just remember that you need to

J.J

Wedding: 09/10/2011