Busty Bride doesn't want to look top heavy
I am a larger woman, and though I am dieting and excersizing I have a wide frame and a large bust. Most of the dresses I have tried on so far make me look short, and top heavy.

What tricks can I use to look more balanced?

Married: 10/31/2009
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In Love & Death
Married: 08/28/2009
Mar 19, 2009 at 11:13 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
If you get a dress with a long torso area that works alot it makes you look taller and flattens out alot and still is comfy to wear also dont get a dress where the bottom flares out huge cause tehn your small on top but the huge bottom doesnt go hope it helps

Married: 10/03/2009
Mar 19, 2009 at 11:16 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
What about an A line gown with a halter top, and not real busy on top maybe have more on the bottom edge that way your eye has to travel from your head all the way to your toes and it may make you look taller and thinner and put the girls on nice display.

Married: 05/15/2009
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Mar 19, 2009 at 11:19 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Try on EVERYTHING! Just keep an open mind and try on every different style they have. You might end up surprised by what ends up working out best on you, plus you'll have lots of fun playing dress up! You just can't know how a style will look on your body until you put it on. You'll never get to do the wedding dress shopping again so why not have fun with it. Let the sales people pick out some options for you, let your MOH or mom pick out some styles for you to try on, ask your FH what styles he likes. My FH told me a style to try on that I never thought would look good on me. I tried it and LOVED it. We all have figure issues and with thousands of dress styles out there I know you'll find the one that makes you feel the most beautiful. It just might take some time and effort to find it!

Married: 05/15/2009
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Mar 19, 2009 at 11:19 AM • 
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Married: 10/31/2009
Mar 19, 2009 at 11:20 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I am not a poof-person. I am a jeans t-shirt kind of girl. I honestly cannot stand the puffy princess thing.

Long waist? Does the skirt portion start further down, or is it just the way the dress is set up to look?

In Love & Death
Married: 08/28/2009
Mar 19, 2009 at 11:23 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Its just the way the dress looks!! When you go dress shopping key word is tell them you want a dress to make your torso look longer trust me those are perfect dresses see I am tall so I didnt want a dress that made me look even taller so I told them something with a short torso, alot of time the way the martial looks, looks like it goes down to your hips or a little past to make it look long but it doesnt go that far just the wonderful looks of it :)

Married: 10/31/2009
Mar 19, 2009 at 11:26 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I Had a HORRID experience with the sales people at David's Bridal. The one off of Rt 70 in Mt. Laurel NJ. The women there were very rude to me and the one sales lady made several remarks about my wieght. She rather ruined the whole, I want to go play dress up idea.

Are there tricks to getting treated better by these women?

In Love & Death
Married: 08/28/2009
Mar 19, 2009 at 11:32 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
You know sometimes it all depends on the girls its horrid trust me I had a really nice lady help me, but my friends hadve had some horrible people it was sad, no tricks to it I guess it depends on the mood they are in as sad as it sounds I would tryand get someone else or tell take a friend in with you and say your fine with looking on your own cause there is always that option cause its suppose to be one of the funniest things us girls do for looking for a dress!!

Married: 10/31/2009
Mar 19, 2009 at 11:36 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I HAD a friend with me, in fact, it was my friend's idea to take me as a surprize. But when I asked to just go look, I was given this speech about how we needed an appointment to do that. Then the sales lady "HELPED" me by asking my size, scoffing at me, and insulting my intelligence.

I had taken a shoulder-sash that was in a pretty yellow, and wrapped it around my waste, just to see what the dress would look like with a color accent, and she proceeded to tell me that I needed more help than just finding a dress because obviously I have no idea where accessories go.

In Love & Death
Married: 08/28/2009
Mar 19, 2009 at 11:51 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Wow I am really sorry about that, That lady is rude that is horrible for people to be like that, Is there any other places in your area to go besides David's Bridal that would be a good idea if so, I guess they are work diffrent cause I also went to Davids bridal in my area and they said I can look on my own but I just asked for there help, Or when you go into Davids Bridal Call make a app and tell them upfront on the phone how you feel what you want and if they can meet those expations or not its what I would do if my experince was bad the 1st time.

Married: 10/31/2009
Mar 19, 2009 at 12:03 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I know their are a few like, Prom-dress shops around, but as far as wedding-gown I am not sure. See, unlike most women I know, I didn't have my dream wedding pictured by 8yrs old... So I have NO starting point. Add that to my first (and only, so far) dress shopping experience, I am a little afraid of going back out there again.


Married: 10/03/2009
Mar 19, 2009 at 12:51 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
If I was you I would call Davids and ask for the manager and let her know what kind of experience you had. Im more than sure she would either help you herself or team you up with someone who is more profesional, Make another appointment like they want but talk to the manager. Those people make a commission on those gowns and I would just look at the rude one and smile and bring all your girls to the new consultant, The rude one will be PO'ed she didnt make the money and you can smile knowing pay backs are a bitch.

Married: 05/15/2009
Reviews: 7
Mar 19, 2009 at 12:55 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'm sorry your 1st dress shopping experience sucked but trust me, they won't ALL be like that. I went to DOZEN and shops and had great and horrible expereinces. Stay away from the Bridal Garden in Marlton, they are snooty and bitchy too. It would probably actually be worth it for you to make a trip to delaware. There a lot of dress shops in a small area and there's no tax and they're usually really nice there with good prices. Google bridal shops with your zip code and map out a plan, spend a day hitting shop after shop. If you do this on a saturdyay please make appointments. If you can possibly do it on a weekday you'll be less pushed by sales people and have more time to relax and look around the shop. You have time and it will get better. I didn't have an idea in mind of what I wanted either, so try EVERYTHING and you'll find out!

FMS, the barefoot wife!
Married: 2+ years ago
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Mar 23, 2009 at 11:47 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I too, am fairly busty, I've found that anything v-neck (not too plunged) with thicker straps, and NO empire beading, sashes etc. It really does minimize the size of my chest, and natural waist dresses work well, ones with rouching do wonders too!
Best of luck!
Mar 23, 2009 at 12:52 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Hi Ashley - as a photographer (and a bigger girl myself), I can tell you that certain styles are definitely better for busty brides than others. Avoid anything strapless, or with a straight-across neckline, for sure. You want your girls well supported. If you have broad shoulders, by all means stay away from a halter style dress because it will only make you look bigger on top (bust AND shoulders). V-necks are usually the most flattering choice, depending on your height and overall build. If you're fairly curvy, get something that defines your waist. Balance is key here. You're probably going to look better in something A-line rather than a sheath or mermaid style.

The NUMBER ONE thing you can do to look great in your dress is get the right foundation garment. Everything starts with great underwear!

Best of luck with your dress shopping, and stay away from anyone who gives you grief about your size. The biggest girl I shot last year was also one of the most beautiful brides of all!

studio-g-occasions

studio G occasions
Mar 23, 2009 at 1:04 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I feel your pain - I'm busty too (but not until I reached 40!) But I do have a smaller waist. Empire style is NOT for us, but unfortunately very popular. What works best for me is very tailored - princess seams, fitted waist -no ruffles, strapless (too scary!) rouching or fussy detail up top. A sweetheart neckline works well for me or a ballet neck. You may want to consider visiting a seamstress & having a gown made, as it seems almost everything is strapless these days.

Married: 07/11/2009
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Mar 26, 2009 at 12:44 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I have a big bust as well the lady at davids bridal almost fell to the floor when I told her my bra size I am a small girl but was blessed or cursed haha. I found that a halter A line worked the best for me. Nothing was falling out and it didnt bring too much focus that I have a large chest which I liked. I thought strapless made my top section look bigger than it already is and almost made me look wide through the chest and shoulders which I am not normally. TRy and try to you find the right one maybe you can find someone in the dress shop to help you find a flattering dress.
Mar 29, 2009 at 12:22 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
If you want to accent your waist and minimize your bust, try gowns with heavy beading on the bodice top and a wrapped or basque waist. Although it seems counter intuitive, the beading draws attention to itself rather than to the size of the bust, and the waist details draw the eye away from the bust and to the waist. Scoop necklines, thick straps and lace-up backs are also good choices for busty brides.

Married: 02/14/2009
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Mar 29, 2009 at 5:39 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
DONT GO TO DAVIDS!!! THEY ARE HORRIBLE!! My friend (who is also larger, as am I) went there and first they tried to talk her into ordering a smaller size (she needed a 24, they told her to get a 20!) she said no, she wanted the 24, they ended up ordering a 22 and when it came in and didn't fit, they told her it was because she had gained too much weight!!! I couldn't believe it!! I was so mad for her. Her mom called and demanded they get her the size she wanted, but they said they couldn't on such short notice (4 weeks) so they had to give her one that was off the rack in the store and they only had a 26. Then they made her get her alterations there. She wanted to do them somewhere else, but the manager said they could not sell her the dress if she was going to do alterations somewhere else. My friend gave in because there was no time to order another dress. Since the dress was kind of big all over, she had to get it taken in all over... they charged her $800!!! (Cont.)

Married: 02/14/2009
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Mar 29, 2009 at 5:48 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
They charged her almost as much as the dress itself! It was so horrible! I beg everyone... DON'T GO TO DAVID'S!! Anyways... also, I would say don't do halter. As a bigger girl, I think halter makes us look like a circus tent. Get something with cap sleeves (if you dont want to go sleeveless) and possible sweetheart neckline I think it looks really good (I might be modest because that's how my dress looked =) And good thing you don't like puffy. Go with something like a narrow a-line, and maybe something that has rouching (can't spell). maybe like these:

http://www.alfredangelo.com/Collections/ProductDisplay.aspx?productID=3d6de46a-4412-4189-97b8-01a56d5237b9&categoryID=1af402e9-205f-4b7b-9d22-6fec77b3d187&pg=0

http://www.alfredangelo.com/Collections/ProductDisplay.aspx?productID=d96a2e39-9b7f-4e39-96dc-ebc24c1ce729&categoryID=1af402e9-205f-4b7b-9d22-6fec77b3d187&pg=0

(I like AlfredAngelo cause you can add sleeves!)

feel free to e-mail me if you wanna chat: MrsHWeddings@hotmail.com
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