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Ok so I've changed a few things many times. Each time I change something one of my MOHs complains to no end. Not kidding. I changed my colors, she threw a fit. I changed the date, she threw a fit. Every detail I change (even if it has nothing to do with her) she has a cow about. So she'll either complain or call me Bridezilla. I've done nothing even close to being a Bridezilla. When we went dress shopping, I didn't even want to go. I told them that the only thing I cared about was their dress was tiffany blue or pool blue. I didn't care if they all had the same exact dress or how long they were. Before going shopping I was sending them pics of dresses to see what they liked. MOH had a fit asking me why I kept changing the dress. I told her that they were dress ideas, not the dress they were going to wear. So her latest fit is that they're not being escorted down the aisle, only I am. They're being walked back down after the ceremony, only thing is that I have 3 girls, my FH has 2(cont)

The Awesome Thief

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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 1:54 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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The Awesome Thief

Married: 2+ years ago
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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 1:58 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
guys. So I decided that 1 of the guys will be walking 2 of the girls out. MOH has a fit cause she misunderstood and said "if anyone is getting walked down it should be me and em cause we're the maids of honor." She says things like this all the time. She tries to tell me how my wedding should be and she called my wedding a big stressful mess. I don't know what to do anymore. I told her that she can either deal with the decisions we make or she can step down and she won't have to worry about it. I'm so tired of her complaining all the time and calling me Bridezilla. It's driving me insane.

The Potters

Married: 09/12/2009
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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 2:00 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Sounds more like BMzilla to me.

The Awesome Thief

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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 2:01 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Thank you Potters! I think she's a Maidzilla too! I just don't know what to do about it anymore.

THE HAWAII DJ

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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 2:06 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Wow! Does your MOH happen to be your your Sister? Does she even want to see you Happy the day of your Wedding? Your far from Bridezilla... This is a term that is used very loosely in the Wedding Business... I think it's pretty sad... Of course we're all going to run in to difficult people in our lifetime, that doesn't mean we have to react to their short comings. I learned that the type A personality that some can't handle is pretty simple to avoid. Never give them a hint that you don't know what you're doing, because they will be all over that in a heartbeat. Wedding Professionals who can't deliver solutions will always get the brunt of the storm when dealing with someone who demands SERVICE:) You're doing just fine. It's You're Wedding. Tell her when it's her turn she can make all the decisions. for Now... It's YOUR DAY... Happy Wedding!!

CamoBride

Married: 08/07/2010
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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 2:07 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Honestly, I don't think people understand what it takes to plan a wedding until you have to plan one itself. It takes time for things to fall into place and we have all changed our mind about one thing or another. The changes you've made are adapting to the situation at hand, this does not make you a Bridezilla.

Analy aka T-waffle

Married: 10/03/2009
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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 2:11 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
You are not a bridezilla. Please don't take this the wrong way, I mean no disrespect at all, but I think a lot of this has to do with your/her age. You mentioned before that this is the first wedding you all are involved in, so she probably just doesn't understand how to act, or what the overall outcome will be. Clearly she takes being a MOH very seriously, and wants to be involved, but maybe doesn't understand that while she is an honored participant, you still get to make all the decisions. It may help if you provide her with a list of responsibilities, so she can feel more included and know where it is appropreate for her to chime in. I would definately talk to her about it though, and just tell her how much she is taking away from your happiness with her behavior. Good luck, it will be great!

The Potters

Married: 09/12/2009
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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 2:12 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
It might be that you are young and I am sure your friends are too. She is probably jealous that you have already found 'the one' and that you are getting married. She is also the one that wants you to have the crazy bachelorette party too, right? She just needs to be happy for you and do whatever you want, it is your wedding. And I'm sure you'll return the favor once it is her turn to have a wedding.

The Awesome Thief

Married: 2+ years ago
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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 2:13 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Hawaii- No, she's not my sister. She's one of my best friends. But I don't know why I expected anything other than this. She complains about everything every day as it is. CamoBride- Thanks. I have told her that it's not nearly as easy as she thinks it is to plan a wedding. There are a lot of things that need planned.

The Awesome Thief

Married: 2+ years ago
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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 2:18 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Potters, she's not the same one who wants me to have the crazy bachelorette party. I have 2 Maids of Honor. She's also engaged but they haven't started planning and haven't set a date yet. She has told me that she wants me in her wedding and I told her that I would be. I'm not going to do what she's doing to me though. It makes planning everything a lot harder than what it already is.

The Awesome Thief

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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 2:23 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Analy- I gave her a list of responsibilities a few months ago. She of course complained saying that I am trying to tell her what she has to do and not do. Then when I told her that since I have 2 Maids of Honor my other friend will be the one who is standing next to me. She had a fit saying that she thinks she should be the one who stands next to me. But I told her that since Emily will be standing next to me she'll be the one signing the marriage certificate. Of course that didn't make much difference. She still threw a fit. I have tried talking to her about it and all she will say is fine or whatever. I'm seriously considering her not being a MOH. She's not being helpful at all, she is just making things harder on me.

Analy aka T-waffle

Married: 10/03/2009
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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 2:27 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
"of course complained saying that I am trying to tell her what she has to do and not do." Of course you are! It's YOUR wedding! Oh goodness, she sounds awful. The people in your wedding are there to SUPPORT you, sounds like maybe she can't do that?

FMS, the barefoot wife!

Married: 1+ year ago
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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 2:39 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Wow I think it's time for a heart to heart. I'm sorry you are going through this. If you want her to step down, then you should express your feeling to her, but, expect friendship to be strained or severed. I don't want to sound mean, as I know she is one of your best friends, but she really doesn't sound like a friend at all..

MNBride2010

Married: 07/24/2010

Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 2:47 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Lucky it sounds like you can not catch a break w/your BM's...poor girl! I don't think it sounds like you're being a Bridezilla either so don't beat yourself up over that. And it is YOU and your FH's day so try not to worry about if everyone else is happy. To me it sounds like she is trying to make it as much about her as she can when really she should be there for you. Hope things calm down these last few months before the wedding! Glad we can be here on WW for you to vent to :) Good luck!

The Awesome Thief

Married: 2+ years ago
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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 5:33 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I think that part of her problem is that her and her boyfriend aren't really good together. He tries to control her all the time. Another part of her problem is that she is a high school senior and takes college classes. On top of that she is expected to do all of the chores around her house and her parents are terrible. I think that I might have made a bad decision in asking her to be a MOH but I didn't want to not ask her because she's one of my best friends. I just don't know anymore.

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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 5:44 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Oh dear, I was there before. I just stayed true to myself. And the day of, she pulled it together and was there for me. I think if you have a heart to heart talk with her and tell her how much her attitude is taking away from your happiness, it might help....Maybe you should give her a planning binder...so she can start planning her own wedding. There are things she can do for her wedding w/o a date...like look for venues, research invites, colors, favors, even look at dresses online or try on dresses at david's bridal or at trunk shows...maybe you can get her to sign up for mailing lists and she can be bombarded with her own wedding planning details...she can get on websites and still research with an approximate wedding date... just don't fold to her demands and if that doesn't work, well I guess it may be easier if she isn't in the wedding? but i'm thinking just keep her in it but don't talk to her about it anymore...just tell her where she needs to be and what time on the day.

The Awesome Thief

Married: 2+ years ago
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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 5:58 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Thanks JJ. I don't know if she would be up for planning her own wedding yet. But she might be.

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Posted On: Nov 25, 2009 at 7:07 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
you might even give her a subscription to a wedding mag or give her all of your old mags that you've already flipped through.

Iguanatan

Married: 06/05/2010

Posted On: Nov 26, 2009 at 4:18 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Ugh, ick. I feel for you. I think from what you have said you have been nothing but reasonable-I wish you luck, and hope it all works out....

yadayada

Married: 10/30/2009
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Posted On: Nov 26, 2009 at 10:00 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
You definitely don't sound like a bridezilla at all. SHE on the other hand... The others have offered some good ideas. Also perhaps consider giving her only minimal info about your planning. Ex.: "What are your colors?" You: "Oh I'm still thinking about it..." or whatever.

Weddings by Susan

Two Hearts Become One

Posted On: Nov 26, 2009 at 9:11 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Sometimes when you have bridesmaids or maid of honors who are trying to take charge it makes it really hard to plan your wedding stress free. If it is in your budget you might want to consider hiring a professional consultant come on board and help you out. what they would do is to keep the girls in line and let them know what their jobs would be help you make your dream become a reality, what the girls in the wedding party don't understand is that this is your day, your ideas and they need to respect this and if they are not able to do the job in which you have asked them to do then they need to step down. Don't let them cause you extra stress. If you have any questions on concerns you are more than welcome to contact me and I will be more than willing to help you out. Happy wedding planning

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