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I am so PISSED!!!!

So were trying to get the last of the RSVP's and we have had several 1's show up but between the people not able to come and the 1's everything has been even so far. Well we just got in a RSVP today with 4 adults. We invited 2 and they have 2 adult children. One is a total hoodlum that has gotten int a lot of trouble with fights, drugs, cops....you name it, and he hardly knows me at all, why would he even want to come. The other is their oldest son who is my age and we dated for a bit but he is a TOTAL A$$. He only cares about himself, he doesnt give a crap about anyone else but himself and has tried to embarrass me on several occasions. He walked into a room when I first stated dating my FH and saw my FH, an ex that I am still friends with (the one who introduced me and my FH) and a guy who wanted to date me in high school (i stay friends and its never been a problem) well he takes it upon himself to announce "hey, doesnt this feel awkward, siting in a room with two guys who ...cont

CelticChick831

Married: 10/17/2009
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Posted On: Sep 2, 2009 at 8:16 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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CelticChick831

Married: 10/17/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Sep 02, 2009 at 8:21 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
f'd you, one guys whos f'ing you and one who wanted to f you" I was just like WHAT!!! and no, he wasnt drinking. Later he finds out from a friend that they had kinda walked in on me and FH in a private moment once, proceeds to ask FH how it was. He is such a a$$ and FH cant stand him and my mom wont let me un-invite him because of the long and old friendship they have with his parents. I cant tell FH he is going to be there because FH will try and call on his own. I just cant believe that someone I cant stand and havent seen in over 3 years is going to crash my wedding. ARGH!!!! I just want to cry because he is so much of a jerk that he will show up just to piss me off. Cocky a-hole.

Thistle

Married: 10/17/2009
Reviews: 3

Posted On: Sep 02, 2009 at 8:36 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
WOW. If you cannot get out of it, make sure to seat him as far away from you as possible and warn everyone not to hand him a mike. Then just ingore him even if he talks to you. Just act like he's not there. You could also just leave the RSVP card where you FH can find it. That way, you won't have told him, but he'll see it and call the guy and uninvite him. Then you can at least tell your mom that you had no idea your FH did that. Hopefully she won't hold it against your FH.

AHairston

Married: 09/11/2009

Posted On: Sep 02, 2009 at 8:37 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Aww Celtic that really sucks and I can totally understand why you would be so pissed off so would I and he does sound like a ture A$$!!! Maybe you can explain to you mom without giving all the details why you don't want him there, I mean none the less it is you and your FH day and you should be happy!!! Good Luck

CelticChick831

Married: 10/17/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Sep 02, 2009 at 8:39 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Oh, she knows. Not the f'ing part but that he has pointed out and made awkward situations that were not awkward to begin with. She knows a lot of the other things he has done and already thought he was a jerk before I told her what he did to piss me off.

Gershelda

Married: 10/10/2009

Posted On: Sep 02, 2009 at 9:27 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I would just say NO, he's NOT coming. And leave it at that. And if he does show up, tell, dont ask, tell him to leave.

Alexis G.

Married: 2+ years ago

Posted On: Sep 02, 2009 at 10:29 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
So did u actually invite this guy?

Mrs. Katie Rinker

Married: 10/03/2009
Reviews: 9

Posted On: Sep 02, 2009 at 10:43 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I would call the couple that you invited & tell them that you only have room for them & not their adult children, that apparently still act like their in high school.. Hope this helps!! I know you have to be frustrated im at that point to as well!!

Mrs. Libragurl

Married: 10/30/2010
Reviews: 13

Posted On: Sep 02, 2009 at 10:58 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I'm sorry...he wouldn't be allowed to come period. How disrespectful. I would put him in a corner and feed him dog food for the reception. What a jerk!

butterflyflirt01@yahoo.com

Married: 08/15/2010

Posted On: Sep 03, 2009 at 1:31 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
wow what a jerk i would call the parents and tell them that you dont want the a hole to come cause you know that he will start crap with you at your wedding and its your day not your moms and not the a holes parents my fh's aunt and uncle and theyre kids are not alowed at our wedding cause of the crap they pulled and my fh through out his childhood so we are trying to get security for them to be removed if they do show up well good luck

Heather S.

Married: 02/13/2009
Reviews: 1

Posted On: Sep 03, 2009 at 2:04 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
BullS#*$! Tough crap if their loser kids want to come! I'd send their RSVP back or a little note saying thank you for the RSVP but that maybe there was a misunderstanding b/c their children weren't invited but you would still like them to come ALONE! Your mom should understand that the important friendship is with the parents and not their kids - if they are her friends they should respect you and so should your mom! I agree w/ Thistle - put it where your fh can find it - he'll be more mad if he sees him show up on your wedding day. Give your mom the dirty details - you're going to be married soon anyway and maybe it will shock her into a reality check. Are you paying for your wedding or is this why your mom thinks she has a say?

Banana

Married: 09/10/2010
Reviews: 2

Posted On: Sep 03, 2009 at 2:09 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I would call up the couple you invited and just flat out tell them that their son has been rude in the past and has made rude comments toward you and that you would prefer if he didn't come to the wedding. At this point I woldn't worry about the other son who knows maybe you'll be keeping him out of trouble for a night.

Unique

Married: 02/11/2010
Reviews: 6

Posted On: Sep 03, 2009 at 8:15 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Celtic, I honestly feel like you should call the couple you invited and explain to them they are invited but you prefer they NOT bring their adult children, or anyone else for that matter. No disrepect to your mom, you can explain to her AFTER you've cleared it up with the couple you invited. You should not have to feel on edge & uncomfortable on your wedding day! and god forbig the jerk DOES do something and your husband has to knock him out the day of the wedding. .. hummmm, seems a whole lot less complicated to nip it in the butt now and dont allow them to come Keep us posted on what you decide to do

Michelle628 is now a Mrs!

Married: 07/31/2010
Reviews: 10

Posted On: Sep 03, 2009 at 9:01 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I would call the couple too and tell them that there might have been a misunderstanding and that the invitation was only for the two of them. Tell them that you are at your maximum for headcount and you cannot add other people. If they give you a hard time then you can tell them that their son has been rude to you and your FH and that he is not welcome there. Your mom should understand..it is your wedding and it should be about you and your FH.

CelticChick831

Married: 10/17/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Sep 03, 2009 at 9:10 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I only invited the couple in the first place because they are such close friends to my parents and my parents wanted some of their friends there. I wanted to call as soon as she said the RSVP had come in with 4 adults but she said "NO, these people have been friends of mine since highschool. I know their kids are jearks, but I will not jepordize my friendship with them over this. There will be almost 200 people there, you wont even notice him there." She feels like they put the kids down just in case the boy decide to come and most liekly havent talked to them yet (becuase they are like that) IDK....This sucks. I dont want to upset my parents but I dont want him there. My mom tried to make me feel better by telling me how my dads ex crashed their wedding (the type of ex that would get a guy drunk and jump in their pants just to start drama) and my mom was livid. Great, so she had someone there she didnt want, so I have to have someone I dont want? This sucks but I have a feeling I am

CelticChick831

Married: 10/17/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Sep 03, 2009 at 9:13 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
just going to have to drop it and see what happens. If he comes up and says something typical I will say "oh ____, once a a$$, always an a$$" and just walk away. Let him feel shut out. maybe he would leave at that point. That and if he says anything too bad, I have a lot of closet rednecks at my wedding, they will kick is butt if he upsets me. 2 of those closet rednecks were competitive kickboxers, the one still studys martial arts. It wouldnt be pretty.

southerngirl

Married: 12/28/2009
Reviews: 9

Posted On: Sep 03, 2009 at 9:16 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Sorry, I would go against your mother's wishes and call up the couple explaining the invitation was for just the two of them. You don't need to give an explanation that their kids are ridiculous or lie and say the venue is full. Just simply say the invitation was for the two of you. If they ask why just explain that your parents would really love to have their company there but that you are not comfortable with their kids there. Don't go into it if they press the issue. They should know their kids well enough to have some clue why they aren't invited without you coming out and saying it. If you call them to explain that they should not get upset at your parents (assuming THEY are reasonable people). If word makes it back to your mom through that couple then so be it. The deed will be done and everyone will be clear on your wishes (whether they choose to follow it? that's a bit more out of your control) Depending on how that turns out the idea of letting your FH figure it out is good

CelticChick831

Married: 10/17/2009
Reviews: 7

Posted On: Sep 03, 2009 at 9:25 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
the couple are total hippies and their kids are the way they are is because they incorrage freedome of expression, and to be open and not change for anyone. Be who you are everywhere you go.(they went to a private school that let kids have creative learning feedome and no grades) I call myself a kind of flower child but I also know manners and when to keep my mouth shut. They never taught that part.

wonderful moment

Married: 03/27/2010
Reviews: 1

Posted On: Sep 03, 2009 at 9:40 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Its your day and you should have people their that you care about. I will call and tell the other people due to space we are not able to accomdate everyone. We are only allowed to accomdate two. And don't care if you offended someone.

Dyan R.

Married: 10/04/2009
Reviews: 3

Posted On: Sep 03, 2009 at 9:43 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
That's a really tough situation. If you do not want them there, I don't think he should be there, and your mom should understand. It was rude of his parents to RSVP for four when there were only two on the invite. I imagine if others RSVPed for more people you would politely call and tell them the guest list is tight and only the people on the invite could be accommodated. I don't see why this couple should be any different. I would just call them and tell them (in a polite way) they invite was only for the two of them and two additional people cannot be accommodated. I understand not wanting to go against what your mom said, but it's YOUR day and there is no reason those jerks should be there if you and your FH do not want them there. Good luck!