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Who and who not to invite.
My fiance and I have big families. He has 12 siblings and I have 9. I want to limit the number of people we invite to 100 however, just in family alone (without their kids) the number is about 80. Some of our nieces and nephews are adult. How do we determine who not to invite from our family?

Married: 08/10/2012
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Posted On: Sep 10, 2010 at 4:04 PM | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Married: 1+ year ago
Sep 10, 2010 at 6:32 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
The only thing I can think of is don't invite those that are far off in the family tree (I mean FAR off). And also don't invite those who live far away. I hope that helps narrow it down. :/

Married: 2+ years ago
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Sep 11, 2010 at 8:55 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Narrow it down to those that you are in contact with. I'm having a wedding of 65 because we decided to invite only those who are actively in our lives (so some aunties and cousin are not invited) to share the day with us....we want to recognize those that are important to us and vice versa. Hope this helps, good luck!

Married: 10/01/2011
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Sep 14, 2010 at 6:27 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Is there a reason you are trying to limit your number of guests? If it's to cut costs, is there somewhere else you could cut that money? It sounds like you'd love to have all of your family there, and with families that large, it can be difficult (my family: aunts, uncles, cousins alone amounts to 100 people, add in FHs family and we're upto almost 200 without any friends).

What you really need to weigh your options. What is the most important thing to you: having all of your family there or paying x-amount per plate for food/having that beautiful but small venue/whatever your situation is? Good Luck!

Married: 03/26/2011
Sep 21, 2010 at 4:46 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Weddings are meant to be family affairs. I'd say invite all the close relatives at least. Some of them won't come so that will cut it down some. I can sympathize I wanted a small wedding but I wanted all my family and I'm up to 82 on my family alone. But it's worth it. I'm blessed in the fact that my cousin is a caterer and she is catering my wedding for me as a gift. That def cuts the cost down so I can afford to have everyone.

Married: 03/05/2011
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Sep 22, 2010 at 2:32 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
We're inviting only aunts & uncles, since they knew us as kids. One cousin and his wife are being invited because they grew up as best friends with my fiance, but otherwise none of the cousins are being invited.

Married: 2+ years ago
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Oct 03, 2010 at 3:38 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
If you're willing to take a chance, invite about 20 more people than your largest number... around that many decline. Odd advice, but it's worked for every wedding I've ever been a part of. Best of luck =)

Married: 2+ years ago
Oct 05, 2010 at 2:21 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
my issue was how many people to invite from work and how many kids to have without it being a kid party.
we decided to only have people we communicate with everyday at work that we liked not just because we were trying to be nice and invite everyone. also we narrowed down the kids by only inviting couples. we decided to only have our bothers and not a cousins brother or things like that. hopefully this helps. i know its hard to decide who should be invited but you have a budget to keep in mind as well as having people around that are really there for you and involved in your life.

Married: 2+ years ago
Oct 07, 2010 at 4:32 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
We're telling our guests that since there will be alcohol that we don't want anyone under the age of 18 to attend. No the 18 year olds won't be allowed to drink but they may make good DDs if someone gets too toasted.

Married: 09/03/2011
Oct 08, 2010 at 7:22 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
A friend of mine had the same dilemma, and she ended up not inviting some close family members (because she was worried about costs). The sad thing is that many of the people that she DID invite ended up not coming, so half her reception room was empty!

I would suggest inviting all the people who you really want to be there, and perhaps limiting the number of kids. But the most important thing is that people you love are there to support you. I agree with the other entry: costs can be cut in other ways.


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