The Answers service is being moved into the WeddingWire Forums.
WeddingWire Forums is an active, social community of brides and wedding professionals that can provide answers for any questions you may have.

All Answers

Unchoosing a Bridesmaid

I have a friend that i used to be very close with in middle and high school, but she moved out of state for college 5 years ago and we've grown apart since then. I was a bridesmaid for her wedding 2 years ago, so when i got engaged last year and I called to tell her, it kind of just rushed out and I immediately wished I hadn't said it. My wedding is next July and due to the size of my venue I want to limit the wedding party. And I just got back in touch with a very old friend who I would rather have as a bridesmaid. So it's not like she did anything wrong, it's just that I feel closer to this other friend and would prefer to have her instead. What is the best way to explain this so she won't be offended?

Lady KnightProjekt

Married: 07/31/2010

Posted On: Oct 21, 2009 at 2:30 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

4 Answers

This question is closed for answers.

Kari95630

Married: 10/03/2009
Reviews: 1

Posted On: Oct 22, 2009 at 11:26 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I think she'll be offended in one way or another. Unless she did something to cause her being kicked out of the bridal party, then I'm pretty sure her feelings will be hurt. Kinda mean thing to do in my opinion, but I hope it works out for you. Good luck!

Wedding Harpist

Margaret Sanzo Sneddon, Harpist

Posted On: Oct 23, 2009 at 9:02 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I agree that she will probably be hurt. Imagine how you might feel if the situation were reversed. I think it would be a better idea to make every effort to include them both and cut back somewhere else. Perhaps your new friend can be MOH.

Yaritza C.

Yaritza Colon Photography

Posted On: Oct 24, 2009 at 9:24 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Hmm..always seems like a hard position to be in! Yeah her feelings may get hurt, but it is your wedding - and you should have who you want in your wedding party. You can tell her that because of the size of the venue, you need a smaller wedding party - she cant really argue with that, since it is the reason you have stated. Also, you say shes out of state for school? If she will be out of state most of this time, how will she be around to help you in the next few months leading up to the wedding?

Samantha D.

Magical Memory Events

Posted On: Oct 27, 2009 at 2:38 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I had a similar thing happen to me, but mine was not getting picked at all. I found out later through the website. Although Im mad about it I wish that she had just been honest with me from the start. Yeah i would still be mad but more forgiving. I would maybe tell her what you said, that do to venue size that you need to downsize your bridal pary but would love to have her and find another way she can help. Handing out programs or helping at the reception with seating. Or even seating at the ceremony (female usher)

What's Popular...