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This will be my second wedding, i am a widow. Can i still wear a white gown or is that frowned upon?
This will be the second wedding for both of us. He is divorced, I am a widow. We were highschool sweethearts and found each other shortly before my husband passed. We both want to have the full wedding neither of us had the first time. Do i need to wear a colored gown or can i still wear a white gown if i want to?

Married: 10/10/2009
Posted On: Jan 24, 2008 at 9:28 AM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Married: 06/27/2008
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Jan 24, 2008 at 11:04 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Well of course you can wear white, but if your sensitive about it, why not get an ivory gown. Go with something simple that compliments you.
Good luck!

Elite Design

Elite Design
Jan 24, 2008 at 12:14 PM • Flag As Inappropriate

Many couples marring for a second time or renew their vows struggle with what to wear. There are a few dos and don’ts. White dress: Do, (Nowadays, white is regarded as a symbol of the joy of a wedding.) Train and veil: Don’t, (Both are usually worn by a woman who hasn’t yet been married.) I hope this helps.

Best Wishes,
Daphne, Elite Design

Wingate Event Planning

Wingate Event Planning
Jan 24, 2008 at 11:16 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
It is your special day. You should absolutely wear the color and gown that you want to wear. You will look back at your portraits and be happy with your choice.

Stacie B.

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Jan 27, 2008 at 8:22 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
White or Ivory would be your best options. However if you choose to have a vale go with a short waterfall length. A elegant headpiece would even be better. Stay away from a long train.


James Wellman Photography
Jan 28, 2008 at 12:36 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
In 30 years of photographing weddings, all of the brides I have photographed have all worn white or off-white for their gown.


Brittany Lynn
Married: 07/10/2010
Feb 03, 2008 at 7:47 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I completely agree with Mindy. I wouldn't wear a white dress because you have already been married, and Ivory is such a beautiful color. I think that it would be a great alternative. It actually looks better on most women because white is so bright and overpowering.

Married: 03/27/2009
Feb 14, 2008 at 2:32 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
your wedding, wear what YOU want! etiquette isn't something that should stand in your way, if it does throw it out! wear white, veil, train whatever makes YOU happy! besides its not a wedding dress without all those silly details and if your wanting the dream wedding you couldn't have before then why not??


When Flowers Dream
Feb 18, 2008 at 8:57 AM • Flag As Inappropriate

Please wear what ever you like. You should enjoy your day and not worry about conventions. Most everything goes now a days! Be comfortable and do not let the fact that this is a second marriage deter you from having what you want.

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