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no host dinner or cocktails wording invitations
my fiance and i will be having a private informal ceremony at the beach for 30 people, our plan is to go to a restaurant after the ceremony but each guest will be paying what they consume. how can we word it out in our invitations. it is rude not to host a reception?

Married: 08/06/2010
Posted On: May 8, 2010 at 1:57 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Married: 06/24/2012
May 08, 2010 at 8:51 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
My fiance and I are in similar waters. I think that some may view it as rude, but the day is about you and your fiance. Weddings have grown into some kind of cultural materialistic phenonema. You and your loved ones are they to share and welcome the love and marriage of you and your fiance. Do not feel obligated to host a reception. In terms of wording, this is a tricky one. This may seem like a lame answer, but I'm sure there might be a phrase that is google-able. All I can come up with right now is, "Dinner afterwards @ (restaurant).." and then maybe you could put a small blurb, either before or after, saying "To make our wedding day possible, we had to keep costs low. Therefore, no ceremony will be held, however..(then maybe explain dinner plans,) and then use the phrase you come up with for hinting that its at their own expense. sorry i cant be of more help, good luck!

Married: 05/22/2010
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May 09, 2010 at 3:11 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I completely agree with Tonya's answer. Also, keep in mind that since you are only having a small group we can assume that these people are close to you and are more apt to understand your financial situation. It never hurts to spread the info by word of mouth to a handful of the guests and ask them to pass it on. Im sure that would take a little of the stress off of yourselves. Maybe you could work something out with the restaurant for you and your groom to cover the cost of drinks only or provide the dessert, Im not sure where you are but you could get a very nice sheet cake decorated to your wedding theme for under $60 and most restaurants will serve your cake. Good Luck with everything!

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May 09, 2010 at 9:40 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Hi Veronica,
An idea you may want to think of is to let the invite be about the ceremony, and then put in an accessory card about the dinner after and that it will be "buy your own". This way you are giving a clear message, and clear communication makes for happy events.
Good Luck!
May 10, 2010 at 6:18 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Veronica, can either/both of your families chip in?

Married: 07/03/2010
May 14, 2010 at 10:43 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I went to a wedding a few months ago and it was a pot luck. the bride and the groom got the cake and had the parents on both sides bring the meat and the rest of the guest brought sides and drinks. It was a really neat idea!! hope this is helpful *=)
May 17, 2010 at 11:11 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
A simple cake and punch reception would be affordable, and is really all that is expected at most smaller weddings.
At many receptions in my area, venues allow guests to bring their own cocktails, or you can have a two dollar drinks available at a reduced cost if you want to have a brief cocktail hour. If you choose to do this, just be sure to make it clear on the invitations that the reception is not a dinner reception.

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May 20, 2010 at 4:45 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
As far as the no hosts thing goes, on our invitations, we put...
"We look forward to sharing our special day
with our family and friends"
That could work.

Married: 03/12/2011
May 21, 2010 at 1:35 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Are you able to atleast provide cake and punch or some sort of refreshments for your guests. If you can then print on the invites " Refreshments following the ceremony". If you cant do that then include a seperate reception card in the invite that has the restaurant information and something worded like " We would love to have you join us for dinner, XYZ restaurant offers casual dining and menu choices in many price ranges". Hope this idea helps.

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