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Lots of close friends I want to include
Hi I will be getting married for the second time and I want something simple and beautiful. The problem is I have about 16 girlfriends who are very important in my life and I want them to be a special part of my day. I really do not think 16 or so bridesmaids make for a simple wedding. I am thinking of just having my 15 year old daughter as my Maid Of Honor and maybe having my 17 year old Son give me away. Does anyone have any ideas on how I can include my very special sister-like friends in my wedding without it turning into a circus? Thank you!

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Posted On: Mar 31, 2010 at 4:44 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Mar 31, 2010 at 10:52 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Thats what the bachlorette party is for. Or plan a girls only shopping day with lunch... or a slumber party... or spa day.
I'm not sure you can include that many girls if you are wanting to keep it simple.

Married: 07/03/2010
Mar 31, 2010 at 11:04 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I have the perfect idea! What I'm doing is 'including' my friends without having them walk and stand up there, cuz my fiancee just wanted our kids, but I need my girls, so only one girl is standing beside me, and 5 others, who are wearing my colors and a corsage, are sitting in the front row, and I will announce them at the reception as my 'special friends' - hope it helps:)
Apr 01, 2010 at 3:09 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I agree with Denise, since how true your friendship is and allow them to be the one's responsible for your shower. And yes, include your son & daughter in the roles selected. If they are true friends they will understand that this is a small & simple wedding, and to have them a part of the day, their attendance is needed. Just a thought.
Apr 01, 2010 at 3:19 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I perform a lot of weddings- some large and some very small. One I did this last weekend was between a couple who had large families and an equally large group of friends. The wedding party itself was very small. However the many things that needed to be done were split between the family memebers and friends. One sister was in charge of making certain that the venue of the wedding itself was set up properly, seating and so forth. Others were given charge over things pertaining to rehearsal dinner arrangements, aiding with makeup and hair helping the bride get ready for her big day. And then others helped with the reception details. Not only did all get a part but it made for a more affordable event and a very well organized event. Sleepovers can be fun as can shopping but to actually have been part of the event and seeing it go off without a hitch was great for all. Most understand, especially if you communicate, that you cannot have everyone walking up the isle.....
Apr 01, 2010 at 5:36 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
There are several different roles you can give to the important people in your life. Besides asking some of them to be bridesmaids, you could ask one or two of them to perform a reading or a solo in the ceremony. You could ask a few of them to be guestbook attendants and/or program attendants, and then you could ask a couple of them to give toasts at either the rehearsal dinner or reception. Best of luck!
Apr 02, 2010 at 4:45 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
If you do want them to be a part of the ceremony - try honor attendants - they can "line" the aisle and shower rose petals down during the processional or the recessional. You can also ask them to assist you throughout the rest of the wedding. It will help you and make them feel special as well. Readers, soloists, ushers, attendants - the sky is the limit.
Apr 20, 2010 at 11:14 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
You could set them up at the Bridal Party table at the reception, with you. Have them dress in your colors, and give each their own moment to dedicate a speech to you and the groom.

They could even come up with some kind of performance or tribute, to you and your friendships, during the reception.

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