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How to do reception ONLY invites.
We are having a very personal wedding ceremony, just my fiance and I. But we are planning a big reception for friends and family that night after we get married. What would be a proper way to send that out? What should it say? and how long before the reception should they be sent out?

Married: 10/10/2010
Posted On: Jan 11, 2010 at 4:31 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Jan 13, 2010 at 9:19 PM • Flag As Inappropriate

From what I understand only invite people that you want to have at BOTH.

Meant To Be Wed

Meant To Be Wed
Jan 15, 2010 at 4:50 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Cara -It's actually fine to have a private ceremony with a reception for your family & friends (happens especially with different cultures & religions). It's just not polite to invite your friends to the ceremony and not the reception.

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Jan 11, 2010 at 4:58 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Basically, just switch the traditional wedding invitation & reception insert. Have the larger piece be your Reception invitation & the smaller insert your Ceremony card. Wording depends on who all is involved & the location/formality etc which can be worked on when placing an order. Try to send out about 6-8 weeks ahead just like a normal wedding invitation.
Jan 12, 2010 at 11:04 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I have to agree with the previous vendor. You should send your invites at least 6 to 8 weeks. Remember to add your personal touch like your monogram, your favorite colors; your invitations should reflect your style and your personality. What you want to said depends on and how formal or informal your wedding will be.
Have fun and congratulations on your engagement!
Jan 12, 2010 at 4:38 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. It is not uncommon to have an after the fact reception to celebrate a marriage.

You might use most of the traditional wording except to say something like:

"you (or your parents) request the honor of your presence at a reception to celebrate the marriage of Rachel and Robert" with all the details of the reception, time, place, etc.
That should make it clear that they are being invited to the reception only. I wouldn't enclose a ceremony card at all unless your guests are invited to the ceremony.

In every other respect, it's appropriate to use all the usual protocol, sending the invitations 5 or 6 weeks before the reception.

Best wishes,
Margaret Sneddon, Harpist

Married: 01/10/2014
Jan 12, 2010 at 11:12 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
You could write something like,
"So and so request the honor of your presence at the marriage reception of R & R." and then if you still want to invite a small amount of people to the ceremony, include just a few ceremonial invites to your chosen people PLUS the reception invitation card.
That's what I would do.

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