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how many people can you expect to not come and or not rsvp?
We have a tent that seats 180 to eat. And a invite list of 217! Wondering if there are statistics on how many people you can expect NO r.s.v.p's from,and how many may not r.s.v.p. but still come? Haven't sent out invites yet. JUNE 26th! So sending in the next week or two! Really worried about this dilemma! Jeni

Married: 06/26/2010
Posted On: Apr 11, 2010 at 5:04 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Tara S.

Apr 12, 2010 at 11:02 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
The Invitation Place is correct. It's typically between 25-30% that are not able to attend. It would be rare if anyone attends that replied "no". Congratulations on your engagement...and have fun! Don't worry!

Another way to send out the invitations would be in groups if you are concerned about too many people responding yes. Send your invitations out to 180 guests...and as you receive "no" replies, you can send the other invitations out. This way, you know you won't go over. It's hard to make the priority list though... so good luck!

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The Invitation Place
Apr 11, 2010 at 5:44 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
On average 25% cannot attend. I think you'll be just fine. I'm not sure on how many say they are not coming & then end up attending - I would assume not many - if anything it would be the other way around, saying they can come & then something comes up & their plans change. Once they say no, it should be no. Most understand that you need a count & can respect that.

Christina A.

Amazing Events
Apr 12, 2010 at 2:58 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
What I would do is for a personal touch call those that sent back a RSVP with a no, and ask them just to make sure then you can take it from there and maybe squeeze a few more in. Plus you will have many kids that will be running around opening up many seats for others. You will also not be adding the wedding party to the actual total of people in the tent, or you shouldn't be.
Apr 12, 2010 at 9:41 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'd say about 70-75% of your invite list will make it. Another way to judge is to look at past weddings in your circle. How many of those people showed up to another wedding, such as a family member of about the same age recently (past 3 years). Or friend of the same...
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Apr 12, 2010 at 6:57 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Agree with most...the % is national average...however, DJ J is correct about getting an idea from your social group. I have seen 350 of 400 respond yes many times and that's only 15% declining, and no one missed the day! On the other hand, I have seen 125 of 150 say yes, and only 75 show!! It all boils down to who you invited(the relationship and the distance). I would be cautious about Tara's suggestion(sorry!!!)---the guests who do not get them on the first run could find out they were "not invited". But the other problem is that you don't know how soon guests will RSVP, and you might not have time to send the second batch. I have a feeling you will be fine.

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