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How far ahead do you have to send wedding invitations and ask for replys?

Married: 07/11/2009
Posted On: Jan 27, 2009 at 10:51 AM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Jan 27, 2009 at 11:08 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Hi there and congratulations. This is great question. Many wedding magazines and websites will tell you that it's customary to send out your wedding invitations about 2 months prior.

However, we suggest that you send them out earlier because many times this is why some family members or good friends can't attend your wedding because they have previous plans. They will tell you.."oh if only I had known that you were getting married on that date..."

So why not send the invitations out 3 to 4 months before your wedding date and then once you get your "no responses", send out some more invitations to those people that you really wanted to invite but didn't know if you had room or the budget to do so.

My husband and I have a photography studio, in New Jersey and have worked with many brides. Also, we did this at our wedding and it worked out great.

Take care,

Cat Kondreck
Kondreck Studios

Married: 05/15/2009
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Jan 27, 2009 at 12:49 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
If you send them too early you run the risk of getting forgotten or lost. That's what save-the-dates are for. You can send them way ahead to give people the notice to arranged schedules, vactions, travel plans, child care, etc. It's an informal heads up so "save the date". I think sending the formal invites out 2 months before the date and asking for replies 1 month before the date is reasonable. That will give you time to call the straggles that didn't RSVP, set up your seating chart, make place cards, and give your caterer the final head count.


studio G occasions
Jan 27, 2009 at 1:59 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Six to eight weeks ahead is customary - as Laura said, much longer anf they do tend to get forgotten. For guests travelling from overseas or across the country, perhaps a bit earlier.
If your wedding is a holiday weekend or most of your guests must travel by plane to get there, I would recommend "Save the Date" cards. If not, I don't recommend them.
As far as a reply deadline, I would say a week before you have to give final counts to your caterer and/or venue. Please look at the frustration of the bride here on ww who has received only a handful of her reply cards back just days before her deadline, and think twice about those pre-stamped reply cards. E-replies work very well (like to your wedding website) or the traditional handwritten reply in response to RSVP printed at the bottom of your invitation.

David B.

Weddink Calligraphy
Jan 27, 2009 at 10:36 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
For out-of-town guests you want to send out your invitations at 8 weeks so they can make travel plans. For in-town guests 6 weeks should be enough time.

For replys, have your guests respond 4 weeks before your wedding. Your guests might be wary of responding earlier than that because of changing plans. Any later will make for hectic planning on your part!

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Krystle M.

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Jan 28, 2009 at 12:24 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Hi! Congratulations!

I agree with Cat Kondreck, however I think it depends on if you send out Save the Date Cards as well. If you are sending Save the Dates then 2 months ahead is fine. Save the Dates are especially helpful for travelling guests.

You typically ask for replys three weeks before your wedding day. This gives you plenty of time to correlate information with your caterer, wedding planner, rental service, calligrapher for escort cards etc.

My husband and I sent Save the Date cards to out-of-state guests. Then did similar to Cat and her husband to include the maximum number of guests without going over our budget.

We ranked our guests by A-list (first round of invitations, absolutely necessary/really wanted them there) and B-list (once A-list declined these were sent). Our B-list was in numeric order with most important first. This made it easy once the A-list replies started rolling in.

Best of Luck!

Krystle Miller

Married: 03/21/2009
Reviews: 8
Jan 29, 2009 at 3:21 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
We sent save the dates at the 6 month mark & invites exactly 2 months prior. The rsvp date is a month before the wedding, so 2/21/09 in my case. That way you have time to get in contact with all the people who did not respond.
Jan 29, 2009 at 6:15 PM • Flag As Inappropriate

The only advice I'd add to what the others have suggested is that you should consult with your caterer so you know what day you need to provide them with a final head count. Then set your reply by date accordingly, giving you a few extra days to get in touch with some who didn't respond but who you are pretty sure planning to attend.

Judi Brown, Getting Personal Imprinting

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