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Honeymoon Worries

We are getting married a week before Christmas and decided to do a short honeymoon for now, so we can be back in time to be with our family on Christmas. We live in Northern California and have decided on Las Vegas for the honeymoon. So this is where the worries come in: my future husband has family members that lives in Las Vegas and they extended an offer for us to stay with them instead of a hotel, and my fiance accepted. I said no way am I spending my honeymoon at someone's house so he had to go back to them and tell them no. So just when I thought everything was taken care of, my future husband comes back to me and says oh well we will have dinner with them one night and another night go out on the town with them. I said this is not what you do on a honeymoon, and he said something like I'm trying to isolate him from his family. HELP!!! What should I do? Should I let it go and just cancel the dinner/show that I booked, or should I insist on having a romantic honeymoon?

Beverly W.

Married: 12/19/2009

Posted On: Aug 10, 2009 at 12:10 AM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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wowjunkie

Married: 06/12/2010
Reviews: 5

Posted On: Aug 10, 2009 at 12:57 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
My future in-laws actually wanted us to stay with THEIR distant relatives on our honeymoon. I just smiled sweetly and asked if they were hard of hearing. They got the picture, but it took some convincing. Honestly I was shocked that they would even suggest it, let alone start insisting on it! Talk to him about what your expectations are - to some people a vacation (and really that's what the honeymoon is) involves family, and to others its a time of isolation. Maybe compromise and visit them once, but I definitely understand your pain! No way was I going to get my freak on with relatives not even my FH knew listening! Talk to your FH, listen to his side of the story, and then agree to compromise (which means BOTH people give a little).

Jaz'min

Simply Classic Events

Posted On: Aug 10, 2009 at 12:28 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
My suggestion would be to be open and honest with your husband and his family. Tell him that your honeymoon is only for the two of you and that you look forward to meeting his family but your honeymoon is not the most proper time to do so. Also, let him know that it is ok to tell his family "no" and that they will understand if the two of you want to be alone.

WeddingLadies

Romantic Dreams Come True

Posted On: Aug 10, 2009 at 2:36 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Being open and honest with your future husband and family is always a good thing, letting him and them all know that you want a romantic honeymoon. Letting them know that it's not a socail call the Vegas might help.

sugarpie212

Married: 11/07/2009

Posted On: Aug 13, 2009 at 1:42 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Deffinately sit down and talk calmly. He probably thinks you're attacking him and his family (even if you're not). Tell him you want the honeymoon to be just the two of you and you'd appreciate it if you could save the family get togethers for another vacation. Be prepared to compromise... if you have to, do the thing you'd be the least against. Say, ok, one night we'll go out to a nice dinner, but that is all. It is your honeymoon, not a family reunion. Visiting is for the wedding. Ask him to respect your wishes and if his family won't leave you alone, change your destination.

SCheecks

Married: 09/18/2010

Posted On: Aug 16, 2009 at 9:41 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Yea I mean I would talk to him, tell him your concerns and maybe he has concerns that he wants to tell you about. I agree with sugarpie212, I would try to comprimise and say OK, maybe we can go shopping one day or just have a nice dinner? I would just say that a honeymoon is once in a lifetime and that you want to spend it with your FH. There is nothing wrong with that, you are not exiling him in any way. Good luck and take care.

Brian Noah

Noah Photography, LA and destination weddings

Posted On: Aug 19, 2009 at 6:42 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I'd say that lunch or brunch would be a good idea. You don't want to do any evening family stuff. You need to reserve your evenings for romantic time with your new husband. 2 days out of your short honeymoon is waaaay too much.

4 Moons Travel

Posted On: Aug 22, 2009 at 5:59 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I completely agree with everyone's advice on here. I just had my wedding and honeymoon in June and there is no way I would or could have spent it with anyone other than my husband. We had a destination wedding and were with our friends and family for the whole week and then went to a different resort the day after our wedding, so we could spend our honeymoon together and ALONE!! lol! I think Noah Photography's idea is a great one and would be a good compromise. Evenings should definitely be reserved for just the two of you! Don't cancel your show, the shows in Vegas are my favorite. I just got back from Vegas a week ago and saw the Mystere Cirque show and loved it! Have a great trip and good luck with everything! -Jennifer Keister 4 Moons Travel

Dominique&Rico

Married: 08/09/2009

Posted On: Sep 03, 2009 at 9:26 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I say tell him how you feel that is not what you do on a honeymoon. I wouldnt go to lunch or brunch because that will turn into an allday thing and you will have to be the one to break up the reunion. Be honest thats the best way to go. Good luck

Diane D.

Absolute Dream Vacations

Posted On: Sep 03, 2009 at 11:15 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
You need to be diplomatic. He's a man and is not thinking clearly...actually at all!! Sorry, been married for over 26 years! Sit down with him and explain that this is YOUR HONEYMOON as well as his. There will be plenty of time for VACATIONS with the family AFTER the HONEYMOON. I'm very sure his family will completely understand. Offer to speak to them for him. He might very well not want to go back AGAIN to decline another invite. Tell him you want romance and togetherness and family just doesn't fit into those categories. Also, don't agree to do anything if you really don't want to do it, otherwise you'll resent him and his family and it will eat away at you. Best Wishes and Good Luck!!

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