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Female best man?
I am just curious, my fiance wants a female "best man" in our ceremony.

I was just wondering if any one else had done this, and if so, what did you do for dressing her? I was thinking we'd have her in a black dress so she somewhat matches the black tuxes that the guys are wearing.

Also what do you call a female best man? Because, in the program, we'd have to call her something... and I don't like "best woman" at all, nor does "female best man" sound good.

Thanks in advance!

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Jun 09, 2008 at 3:09 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I have been to a wedding where this was done, but the Bride had a male as his "Maid of Honor", so they were still referred to as Maid of Honor and Best Man, they just stood on opposite sides. I think it sounds good to put her in a black dress to match the rest of the guys. As far as the program, you could use "Groom's Maid of Honor", "Best Person", "Best Lady", "Best Maid" to name a few. There are several articles about it if you look around. Simply search "female best man" and you'll come up with LOTS of good info.

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Jun 09, 2008 at 11:38 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
The term to use is "Honor Attendant".

Calling the female the "Best Lady" or "Best Woman" sounds like the Bride is second choice. Same thing goes for the male attendant if you call him "Gentleman of Honor". Your "Gentleman of Honor" is your Groom - he has the honor of marrying you.

Trivia: Why is there a Best Man? When the bridegroom would capture his bride from a neighboring village, he was accompanied by his strongest friend (or best friend), who helped him capture his bride, fight off other men and help in preventing the woman's family from finding the couple.

And why is there a Maid of Honor? Since the Middle Ages, a marriage was not official unless witnessed by two people who swore that the bride was not being unwillingly married off by her father. One witness was usually
a friend of the bride and became known as the maid of honor.

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Jun 10, 2008 at 12:32 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
"Honor Attendant" is the best terminology. I would say to dress her in the black dress or even a regular gown that she wants to wear to match the rest of the wedding party. You don't want to make her feel like an outcast because she is on his side, but you also do not want her to look like she got confused (i.e. bridesmaid on the wrong side.. lol).
Good luck!

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Jun 10, 2008 at 1:36 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I got married on Saturday and my husband had a female groomsman...not the best man though. First and formost make sure that you are sincerely okay with another girl standing up for him at your wedding. I am friends with the girl that he had stand up for him and we would have had it no other way,but make sure it is ok with you. Our colors were royal blue with yellow accents, but my dress had some black accents in it. The girls wore royal blue dresses and the boys black tux with blue vests. The girl wore a black dress with a blue sash. She also had a boutinneir instead of flowers but hers was more elaborate than the boys's.
Good luck.

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