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Aunt wants to MATCH bridesmaids
My sister is getting married on June 19th. Her wedding colors are blue and gold (UCLA). My aunt, who recently had to be told to wear a different dress to her stepdaughters wedding for the same reason, recently asked what color the wedding was. When my sister responded, she said, "Great. Just don't want to match or clash" but then told another aunt she was planning on "getting a blue and yellow dress so we coordinate in the family photos". I, and my other sister will be wearing yellow BM dresses.
It's a silly thing, but we really don't want her to match the wedding party, because she is not in it. The wedding is not about her, it's about the bride and groom and we're really stressing with how to talk to her about it or whether we should just let her look foolish...

Married: 08/06/2010
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Posted On: Jun 3, 2010 at 3:36 PM | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Married: 07/31/2010
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Jun 03, 2010 at 3:46 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I totally sympathize with the bride and groom, but my opinion for them not to say anything. Weddings are really stressful and people get into so many fights. I say if you can avoid one, go for it. When they're going to be looking at wedding photos 20 years from now, are they going to be thinking "I can't believe aunt did that to us", or laughing about her lack of taste? If they REALLY want to say something, I think they say that they prefer she wears another dress but ultimately it's her choice.

Married: 06/26/2010
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Jun 03, 2010 at 4:00 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
This is sort of like my mother in law who insists on wearing two dresses on MY wedding day, why?? because she thinks she is THE IMPORTANT one...she hasnt even forked out a dime for the day and I was so upset when i found out she will be doing a wardrobe change, (IM NOT EVEN CHANGING DRESSES!) but then i realized after taking some advice that it will be HER that looks like the fool!!!! Everyone is going to notice and wonder what the hell she is thinking...and honestly, IM LOOKING FORWARD TO THAT!!!! hahaha. NOW...if one of her dresses is white or ivory, im sorry but my MERLOT IS GOING TO HAVE AN ACCIDENTAL SPILL!!!!! ;)

Married: 08/27/2011
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Jun 03, 2010 at 5:23 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I would tell her directly that she should get another dress if your sis is not ok with it. Being up front is the only way to go about it.

Married: 10/01/2010
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Jun 04, 2010 at 2:26 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Nicely explain to her that you would like her to wear a different color because you want your bridesmaids to stand out from everyone else. Maybe suggest going to the dress shop with her to help her pick out a dress.

Married: 07/10/2010
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Jun 04, 2010 at 4:07 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I've got the same problem with my aunt. We've got a really open and blunt relationship though so I didn't have to worry about hurting her feelings. I just told her to get a different dress.

Married: 09/18/2010
Jun 05, 2010 at 10:55 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
If it means that much to you that she not wear those colors just nicely explain to her that you would rather she not. If it is something you can live with, I would just leave it. Family drama is always hard to avoid around weddings it seems!

Married: 05/15/2010
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Jun 05, 2010 at 5:14 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Everyone is different. Some people want to match the wedding and other tend to try everything not to . It's a personal preference. As long as she is not wearing the same dress as you two then you will be fine.

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