Unity Sand Ceremony
I am having an outdoor wedding and planning to do a Unity Sand Ceremony instead of the Unity Candle Ceremony. But I'm having a hard time finding the wording to go along with this. Any suggestions?

Married: 10/18/2008
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Posted On: Jul 8, 2008 at 8:23 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate2 likes

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maria mcmanamey

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Jul 09, 2008 at 12:06 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Actually, I've only seen sand used once (and highly recommend it for outdoor weddings). Use the exact same wording the officiant would for a unity candle, just substitute the word "sand" for "candle". However, if no special introduction is made (like many unity candle portions of weddings), I think your guests will still "get it."

Rev. Claire G.

Rev. Claire Goodman
Jul 09, 2008 at 6:10 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
As a Wedding Officiant I've performed this dozens of times... it is not exactly the same as a sand ceremony but there are many beautiful wordings to use. I suggest you search online with "Unity Sand Ceremony" and I think you'll find many choices.

Best of luck!


Married: 10/24/2009
Jul 11, 2008 at 12:42 PM • Flag As Inappropriate

(After the minister reads the statement below, pour the two containers of sand into the third container simultaneously.)

__________ And________, today you join your separate lives together. The two separate bottles of sand symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate sets of friends. They represent all that you are and all that you’ll ever be as an individual. They also represent your lives before today. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be.

This is what we are using!!! :)
Jul 11, 2008 at 9:07 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Hello, I suggest speaking with your officiant.. He/She may have suggestions on several wordings they have used with past weddings. You could go over it with them and make changes where you see fit.

Aug 04, 2008 at 7:42 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
To symbolize your coming together as a couple, we will use these 2 different colors of sand. Each color represents the individuals you were, and still are, but we blend them together, creating one new color. This new color represents the union you are creating here today. As you come together, you must remember to each retain your uniqueness. Remain steadfast in your individual identity, because marriage does not meet changing one’s self. It means committing to live harmoniously together, creating one life, from the individuals who share it. Once these grains of sand combine in their new home, as you will, they can never be separated into their previous form, as you will change as well. Here you create your new family, your new life, and your intention to bring love, commitment, and endless resolve to a harmonious life together.

Married: 09/18/2010
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Aug 19, 2008 at 8:28 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
This is an excellent idea- I'm 'stealing' it !! I was struggling b/c I have my mom and step mom neither of which I am very close to but how do I choose one? and my fiance does not have a good relationship with his mom. ...so who would I choose to light the candles that we would use to light the unity candle...

thank you thank you thank you!!

Married: 11/15/2008
Sep 29, 2008 at 11:34 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I've done the sand ceremony before but we used 3 different colors of sand 1 for me 1 for groom and 1 to represent god in our marriage and that we will always base our marriage through him...we layered it w/ white 1st for God and then groom then white agian then bride the white agian the both bride and groom finish the sand then top it of w/ white. It makes for a prettier sand vase too.
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