Wedding Registry wording!! Dont want to sound rude! HELP ME LADIES!
LADIES! ok so i went against tradition or policy or whatever and included my registry info into my invites. i did tis because we registered f rour honeymoon and we do not have the extra $$ to spare so we wanted to politely let people know :). well i have recently found out that contributions have to be made by Uagust 7, 2009 which is when the registry will close becaus ethe honeymoon will have to be paid for by then.. so here sthe issue, i unfortuantely did not get to include that on our registry card an di have haad ALOT of peope syaing "oh well we'll just give her money on the day of her wedding: well thats a very lovely gesture, however, we would love for it to be contrubted ot the honeymoon prior to august 7..so, i thoguth about sending out a mass email to fsmily and freinds but i dont know anyones dmmail, i;m thinking facebook might be a little sleezy..but i dont know!!! i need to tell people somehow or we ownt get to go on our honeymoon!!! what can i do here???? (cont)

shalliwell
Married: 10/03/2009
Reviews: 10
Posted On: Jun 22, 2009 at 4:24 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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shalliwell
Married: 10/03/2009
Reviews: 10
Jun 22, 2009 at 4:25 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
i have been trying to politey mentio it to people as they rsvp but they arent rsvping as fast as i thgout they would. i ena i told my close freinds that im with all the time an dthey were like ya ok no problem but for some people who probably think that shouldnt have been included i dont want to insult anyone or make them think all i am after is their money...i am in aa pickle...help!!

Traci&Bob
Married: 02/26/2010
Jun 22, 2009 at 4:42 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
This is NOT meant to be rude in any way but I could never do that. No matter how you word it, there will be people that will feel insulted. Maybe this is just me but if we couldn't afford the honeymoon on our own, I wouldn't go. I would wait until a later date when we could afford it. A lot of couple wait to go on their honeymoon, some don't even have one because they would rather use their money towards a house, etc. Good luck though!

shalliwell
Married: 10/03/2009
Reviews: 10
Jun 22, 2009 at 4:48 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
hah ok i guessi worde dthat wrong. We could have paid for the honeymoon and we still likely could if it came down to it. an di think its super rude to send somethign too but i just dont know what to do

shalliwell
Married: 10/03/2009
Reviews: 10
Jun 22, 2009 at 4:49 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
sorry i shoud lhave mentioned people cam still contribute after august 7th but we will just have to pay fro it by that date then the money people contribute will just com e back to us that way. we have lived together for many yeard an dthis was all we wanted. it was used as an alternative t gettign 50 toasters

amc
Married: 08/28/2009
Reviews: 3
Jun 22, 2009 at 6:28 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Oh, that is tough. I hate all the rules about registries! It is sooo hard not to offend anyone

Do you have a wedding website? What I would do for those who have internet access is just send them an email or facebook message to say you are excited to see them there and to "remind them" that updates will be posted on your site. Most people can't resist clicking a link :)
Then you can have a registry page on the site that says something like "Donations toward our dream honeymoon can be made before August 7th"

It also works really well to tell your parents to spread the word. That way it comes from them... "oh, by the way if you want to contribute toward their honeymoon it is best to do it by august 7th" instead of coming from you and sounding like you are begging for money.

You definitely won't get all of them to do the registry 2 months before the wedding, but hopefully enough to pad the cost for you. Then you can make up the rest later.

Hope this helps, Good luck!

FMS, the barefoot wife!
Married: 2+ years ago
Reviews: 10
Jun 22, 2009 at 6:52 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Have you asked them to extend the date? I would just nicely pu out a mass email (if thats what you want, I'd rather do a note and mail them) Saying; "Unfortunatly due to the time in our contracts for the honeymoon registry, our registry closes on Aug 7, 2009 and any further donations cannot be made after this date. Sorry for inconvience this has caused you, we should have read the contract carefully, We thought we should let any guests wishing to contribute to our honeymoon know. We appreciate the contributions even though your presence is more than enough.
Love:
The Future Mr. & Mrs. Halliwell"
It's still kinda rude to do this, but oh welll i guess..people have done worse! Or you can just close your registry down, pay for the honeymoon, and any $$ you get put back into the bank you paid the honeymoon with.

CelticChick831
Married: 10/17/2009
Reviews: 7
Jun 22, 2009 at 7:43 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Like you I HATE the etiquette behind the "registry". Your suppose to have a registry so people know what to get you because without it they feel lost and can get frustrated, but you cant tell them about it. OH NO! They have to hunt, search & hope they have the right website to be able to find it. Or you can try & get your family to spread the word but if anyone's family is like mine or my FH's that's like pulling teeth because they either cant remember that you have a website, or that the registry info is on there. Or the best one yet...they keep loosing the website. I wish you could just politely say..if you so choose to get us a gift we would like this.. Ta DA! done. LOL.

I think the best bet is use what you get before the close date to pay as much as you can, put the rest on a credit card & use the money gifted after the close date that is later sent to you, to pay off the credit card. That way there are no miss communications, tacky face book messages or pissed off family members

Gershelda
Married: 10/10/2009
Jun 22, 2009 at 9:56 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Ya know. I agree...everyone is telling me and FH, "it's your wedding, do what you want", or when we ask a question about what is right or wrong in doing things, we get "I have no idea...the rules have changed, so I guess you can do whatever you want." We do not want to offend anyone either. But all our money is in the wedding itself. We don't want a trip to Jamica, or Alaska, although that would be nice. We just want a day or two away to "wind down" alone. When I mentioned we put the honeymoon registry on the shower invites, OMG!!! THEN people began offering the opinions, and they were not good. My question is if it is our wedding, why not?
I would just email and call as many ppl as you can and let them know about the deadline. What can they do? Not give anything? I know I wouldn't be offended if the registry info was on the invite...I would understand. Especially with jobs being lost everyday.

CelticChick831
Married: 10/17/2009
Reviews: 7
Jun 22, 2009 at 10:01 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
plus a lot of people dont like to give cash because it seems impersonal and if they dont know about the deadline and want to make sure you have it for the honeymoon they might be upset to find out (either by word of mouth or a pop up while processing the gift) that its too late and might not have enough time or enough to choose from from other registries. I agree that people should know so they can plan ahead.

shalliwell
Married: 10/03/2009
Reviews: 10
Jun 22, 2009 at 10:55 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
thank youladies SO much!! i appreciate all you hellp! you really did make me feel so much better!! i dunno what id do without you guys as such a strong support group!!!
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