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How to signal the bride is coming?
As many other brides are doing these days, we are using a modern song instead of "Here comes the bride" for my walk down the aisle. We have chosen Cat Power's "Sea of Love" (since it is a romantic verson of our song). I have been to several weddings that did the same sort of thing, and the problem was that the bride was halfway up the aisle before anyone knew she was coming! What's a good way to signal that everyone should rise for the bride?

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Jul 08, 2009 at 10:11 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Generally the Bride will enter to a different song which would act as a cue. However, it is really the responsibility of mother of the bride to stand first which cue's the guests. All of those little details are why a rehearsal is important. Some couples think a rehearsal is just walking in and out. Actually a rehearsal is much more. Also the Officiant is standing right there and can see the bride coming! The officiant if experienced should have noticed no one was standing as should have said "please stand". Again it is all about experience of your Officiant, Musicians, Coordinators, and of course how important the rehearsal is.

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Jul 06, 2009 at 7:43 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
is the whole party walking up the aisle to the same song, or just yourself?

if it's just you, have a few seconds of silence right before your song starts, that way they realize when the music starts that you're the one coming
Jul 06, 2009 at 7:55 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I had the same question. Are you using the same song, or a different song?

If you are using the same song:
- Have the person that is in charge of playing the music play softly while the bridal party comes down, then when it's your turn, have the officiator say "Please stand", and then have the music person play louder for your entrace

If you are using a different song:
- The song for the attendants should slowly fade as they finish, then the officiator should say "Please stand", and then your song will start.

At the weddings you've been to where nobody knew the bride was coming, it sounds like an issue between the officiator and music person. It is the job of those two to make sure your entrance is special and noticed.


studio G occasions
Jul 07, 2009 at 12:48 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
THe mother of the bride stands first when the bridal fanfare begins, followed by the congregation. In your case, the MOB stands at the music change or musical cue for your entry. If she forgets, the officiant can cue the congregation.
Jul 07, 2009 at 1:20 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
That's why you need professionals. I, as the officiant, say "All stand for the bride." And they do

Dream Weavers Events
Jul 07, 2009 at 5:08 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
As a planner, I advise a different song for you than the rest of the bridal party. Most of my brides prefer the unspoken "announcement" of their arrival and, therefore, there should also be a short pause after the bridal party has all reached the altar before you enter.
Jul 08, 2009 at 10:53 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
This is a great question since more and more brides are choosing non-traditional processional music these days. As previous posters have suggested, if there is to be a change in the music, a brief pause signals that the bride is about to arrive. It is also very helpful if the officiant says, "please rise".

When the same music is used for the entire party, which is sometimes easier and works particularly well if the processional is short, the musician can make a fanfare just prior to the bride's entrance or just increase the volume. Here, too, the officiant can say, "please rise" or the mothers can stand.

In some weddings, the runner doesn't come down until just before the bride, if that is the case, the runner is a signal to everyone that the bride is about to process.

There is a page on my web-site called "ceremony suggestions" that might be of interest.

Best wishes for a wonderful wedding.

Margaret Sneddon, Harpist
New York area, Westchester, CT, NJ
Jul 08, 2009 at 4:23 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
THis past weekend I designed a beautiful modern wedding here in Ca.

The bride had selected a simple guitar song as her entrance.

The wedding party walked the aisle, there was a pause and then
2 young boys stepped into the aisle and rang a small bell to annouce the brides presence.
Everyone stood.
It was delightful and festive.

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Jul 10, 2009 at 2:42 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
My wedding was June 27th. I didn't have the here come the bride but I had live music and what I did was have the keyboard player play the introduction for here comes the bride then everyone stood up then the actually song that was sung as I walked down the aisle was played.

Reyna (Renee')

Jul 11, 2009 at 11:46 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
when the bride is coming and the music should be strong but not too loud. plus wait for 20 seconds or so then come down. And someone like the family should know the song and stand., they will be in front and everyone else will stand too. Congrats and good luck

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