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How should I address the response card envelopes?
My fiance and I are the ones sending out the invitations, and keeping track of the guests. On the response card envelope, should I list both of our names? (With my current last name) or just to myself, or only to him. Or should I "jump the gun" and put our married names? I'm not sure if there's an expected way of doing this. My first thought was to just put my name. Anyone else do this?

Married: 10/25/2008
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Posted On: Aug 14, 2008 at 7:03 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Married: 06/06/2009
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Aug 14, 2008 at 7:19 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I was faced with this same problem just a few days ago. Honestly I decided against using my fiances last name with my first. Some people do it but I really just didnt feel right doing it. Having his last name be mine as well is something that I find very special and I didnt want to tarnish the feeling of it by using it before it was legally my name as well. I am looking forward to taking his name very much and I dont want to make it any less rewarding when I am the new Mrs. Laurent. Everyone will understand where you come from either way you do it. Its all about how you feel and what you want to do as a couple.

Good luck!


Married: 07/06/2007
Reviews: 5
Aug 14, 2008 at 7:53 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I don't even think you have to put both names on there, one name will do. Them more important part is having the correct address to insure you recieve them. You can go with your name alone or your fiance's. Honestly, I don't think you REALLY need to follow etiquette on a response card envelope, when your guests are going to simply return it back to you.
Aug 14, 2008 at 9:32 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
A great tip I give my brides is to keep a numbered guest list and discretely number the back of each response before sending out your invitations. Sometimes people forget to write in their name and it just makes it easier to keep track of your RSVP's.

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

Married: 09/27/2008
Aug 15, 2008 at 9:02 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I had the same problem and did put both my full name and my fiance's on the return envelope.
Aug 16, 2008 at 1:39 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
You should have the response cards addressed to whomever is the host/ess of the event--which depends on the way the invitation was worded. If your parents are hosting then it should be addressed to them, if you and your fiance sent them, it's OK for just your name to be on the response address.

Calligraphy by Amy
Aug 18, 2008 at 3:30 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
As one of the top calligraphers in the Pittsburgh area, I would recommend that you have the cards returned to your husband. This would be the traditional approach since you are sending the invitations yourself, instead of one particular set of parents.

This is the traditional route, but remember, it is your day----do what makes you both happy!


Married: 04/18/2009
Reviews: 7
Aug 20, 2008 at 11:37 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
we are doing ours ourself (well i am doing them)....and i am just putting my name on the RSVP envelope. HTH

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