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Inserting gift registry cards into wedding invitations?
Here's my situation.... my Fiance and I are wondering if it is ok, appropriate/inappropriate, doesn't matter - if we can include our Registry cards in with our invitations? Now, my matron of honor and bridesmaids are including them with my bridal shower invites, but then the ladies invited will be the only ones that know where we're registered. Here's our true question... we think it's great that people are thoughtful to get us gifts not from our registry, but if people are going to get us gifts instead of giving us money, than we'd rather have gifts from our registry for our wedding. However, we are needing monetary (money) gifts more than physical gifts. If we include the registry cards... do you think that our guests would assume that we'd want them to get us gifts off of our registry - and not give us cash???

Married: 08/30/2008
Posted On: Apr 17, 2008 at 12:32 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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MindyTwirl
Married: 06/27/2008
Reviews: 4
Apr 17, 2008 at 1:21 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Hey!
You can include the registry cards that the stores you've registered at have given you.
Also let close friends and family know you'd much rather receive monetary gifts. Then they can spread the word to other guests.
Good Luck!

Married: 11/01/2008
Apr 17, 2008 at 1:57 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I am in the same situation! But from what I have read/heard, it is not really great etiquette to include the registry cards in with the invitations, because you don't want to come off that you're expecting gifts. People that were not invited to the shower that want to get you a gift will most likely ask someone close to you (or you yourself) where you are registered. Otherwise, they will probably give you money. And if you especially are looking towards the monetary gifts (as me and my fiance are), they are more likely to do that if there is not a registry card.

Hope this helps, and good luck!
Apr 17, 2008 at 6:16 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
It is very tacky to include a registry list with the Wedding Invite, however it is customary to include it in the shower invitation. Including a registry in your Invitation makes it seem like the only reason to invite people is for more presents. Also, I have to agree that if people don't know what to get you, they will either ask a family member or just give you cash.

Married: 09/06/2009
Reviews: 8
Apr 17, 2008 at 5:36 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'm not much for etiquette, but I wouldn't include the registry cards in our invitations. My best friend did put them in her invites and I thought it cheapened her beautiful invitations. Doing so could offend etiquette-minded and older, traditional guests... And I think if you want cash more than you want things from your registry that you should nix the cards anyway. If your guests get a registry card in your invitation and then learn from family and friends that you want cash, you look greedy.

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My Dream Home Registry
Apr 18, 2008 at 3:34 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
We recommend that our clients do not put Registry Cards in their invitations. We even ship classy ones to users, and we still say not to include them. Your invitations should be about the wedding and honoring your decision/day... not the gifts. That having been said, here are GREAT ways to get word out that won't upset anybody.

1. Include a link to your wedding website in your invitation. This is a great place for information about the event, and you guessed it, where you're registered! There are several sites that offer free wedding pages.
2. Include Registry Cards in your shower invites... always a good idea and expected.
3. Send our email notifications to your friends that will spread the word for you.

No matter what you do, you'll always have people that decide you really really need a new toaster. Just remember to have fun with it.

Married: 11/07/2009
Reviews: 5
Apr 23, 2008 at 1:00 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I used to work at store that had bridal registries and would have all kinds of people, young and old, male and female, come in and see if THIS was the place the couple registered at. So if you are not putting it in the cards, make if OBVIOUS somewhere else. I always thought it was crazy that people had their guests going around to different stores to see if the couple had registered there. Also, you have to realize that not everyone is that internet savvy and may not check websites. Lastly, about the money thing- it they are going to give you money, they are going to give you money regardless of if you registered anywhere. Some people REFUSE to give cash so if they don't know where you're registered at, you'll get another candle or another frame which you can't return b/c you don't even know where it came from!

Married: 10/04/2008
Reviews: 6
Apr 19, 2008 at 11:50 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
We're toying with the idea of including the registry cards that we received in with the invitiations. I don't see the issue with it, especially since it's a bother to have to ask about where a couple is registered.

I recently went to a wedding where the couple added the logos of the stores they were registered at on the bottom of the map they included with the invitation. The map was necessary to get people from the ceremony site to the reception. This may be a more subtle way to get the word out without detracting from the invite.

Married: 07/06/2007
Reviews: 5
Apr 20, 2008 at 11:49 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I didn't include the registry cards, but what I did do was I put all the information I wanted my guests to know in a website I had in theknot.com and I printed out little lable stickers with our website and pasted it on the direction cards. I also had it on the save-the-dates as well. You can put any info you want on your website including attire, whats on the menu, accomidations, and even the no cash please part.
 

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