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Wedding day surprise for deceased mother in-law ?
My fiance's mom passed away a few years ago. They were extremely close so I want to surprise him on our wedding day with a tribute or doing something in honor of her. Any suggestions?

Married: 07/19/2008
Posted On: Nov 15, 2007 at 9:07 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Married: 07/06/2007
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Nov 16, 2007 at 7:40 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I paid Honor to my grandfather, who passed away prior to my wedding. What I did was I had a single white rose, and I placed on the chair next to my grandmother(where he would have sat) on my way to the altar. I hadn't mentioned it in the wedding program some I got many people asking me what the rose stood for, and I was more than happy to explain what it was for. You can do something like that.

Married: 07/29/2006
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Nov 16, 2007 at 12:25 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
What a sweet thought. You can, of course, have a written tribute in your printed ceremony program. As for other thoughts, do you know (or can you find out) if she had any favorite songs - or songs that were special to her and your fiance - that you could play during the ceremony or reception? Did she have any favorite poems or novels, or maybe an excerpt from a letter she wrote, that you could have read during the ceremony? Or perhaps something of hers that you might wear? Good luck, and keep us posted!

Nov 19, 2007 at 10:18 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
There are many ways to honor those who are deceased at a wedding. One bride I worked with had a blue hydrangea bouquet with a white rose for each grandparent who was deceased. Another thing you can do as a surprise to your fiancee is put together a video montage of him and his mother set to music for your DJ to play at your reception. This will be a great way to honor her and it can be used in the future so your children will get to know their late-grandmother.

Married: 06/10/2006
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Nov 20, 2007 at 8:47 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
How about playing one of her favorite songs during your reception or as part of your ceremony? Or use some of the same songs his parents used during their ceremony? Or one of the same readings?
Nov 22, 2007 at 12:00 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Some of the answers such as placing a memorial in the program, placing a flower on a chair or a memorial candle are great ideas because they are subtle.

Unfortunately, many people intending to be well meaning cross the line and turn beautiful wedding into an uncomfortable situation by making it feel more like a memorial.

I'd be really cautious about things like photo montages or really public -in your face - displays.
Nov 27, 2007 at 5:37 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
My mother passed away a year before my wedding, what I did was have my sister escorted down the isle with what would have been her corsage and her picture, both were placed on the chair she would have been sitting in. It was a very quiet way of showing that she was still there.

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