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What is the proper way to address invitations when a married woman did not take her husband's last name?
I have a few friends and family members who are married but maintained their own last names. What is the proper way to address the invitations, save the dates, etc.

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Posted On: Dec 27, 2007 at 10:42 AM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Married: 07/06/2007
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Dec 27, 2007 at 12:08 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
You would put Mr.__________ & Mrs.___________.

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Dec 27, 2007 at 6:06 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Legally their name is Mr. and Mrs. __________ and the invitation should be addressed as such. In cases where you have listed in your question is usually based on professional reasons. But there is nothing wrong in social settings especially a wedding to address married couples by their proper name.

Married: 05/31/2008
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Jan 01, 2008 at 10:31 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
"Legally their name is Mr. and Mrs. __________ and the invitation should be addressed as such."

That doesn't sound right. Legally, name change paperwork is a separate process from getting a marriage certificate. If a bride didn't fill out the separate paperwork to change her name, legally, her name remains the same. From what I've seen, and I'm no expert, courthouses will usually include the paperwork for a name change in case one or both couples would like to change their name while the couple is getting their marriage certificate--but that doesn't mean that once they're married their name automatically changes.

All of that said... I would stick with Mr. ____ and Ms. ____. I don't know if that's proper etiquette, but it certainly indicates respect on your part for the name decision of each party.

Married: 04/26/2008
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Jan 23, 2008 at 5:46 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I have to second the objection to "legally" they have the same name. Changing your name is totally separate from getting married. Personally, I would be offended if someone called me by my husband's name, as I don't plan to change mine. Why would someone I know send an invitation to someone who is not me? I think Mr.____ & Ms. (or Mrs.) _______ is the way to go.

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