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How do I formally ask for gift cards instead of gifts?
We live in California but our wedding is in North Carolina. We are concerned that we will get a ton of gifts that we will have to ship back home. Any ideas about how to ask for gift cards or money in a more "formal" way?

Married: 05/02/2009
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Posted On: Aug 2, 2008 at 8:09 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Married: 03/28/2009
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Aug 03, 2008 at 5:31 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
There's a few things I've seen done, I don't know about whether they follow "etiquette." You can always put gift cards on your registries and only put a few items in your registries. If your concerned about bringing the gifts back, have items that people order online and put your shipping address in as the default so they're sent directly to you. My friend did this for her wedding recently and it was great because it meant I didn't have to tote the gift with me when I flew there.

The Wedding Cottage

The Wedding Cottage
Aug 03, 2008 at 7:32 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
First, we suggest this information be passed word of mouth by friends, relatives, etc. as they are asked by guests of the wedding and bridal showers. Second, we suggest our clients to create a wedding website and on the registry page of your site, include any specific information about where you are registered or preferences of gift cards because you having a "destination" wedding. On your save-the-date you can list the web address, or when sending your wedding invitations, include an insert stating "For more information about our wedding, please visit our website at www....".

Hope this helps!

Melissa Downey
The Wedding Cottage
Beaverto, Oregon


Poetic Images
Aug 04, 2008 at 11:55 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
The Wedding Cottage has some great points there.
If you are going to "formal" road with this then the word of mouth is prob the best way to go as well as the site suggestion.

If you want to go more playful and personal then make it like a cute card that playfully suggests the notion to them. something like...
Tired of searching for the perfect gift for that special Bride & Groom? Then let them make that decision for you. Just purchase a gift card from their chosen stores. Be one step ahead of the other guests who are still scrambling and standing in those checkout lines.
Besides...the Bride & Groom secretly prefer this anyway...they would just never tell you. Shhhh...consider me having just let the cat out of the bag.

you could even have a photo of you with a thumbs up to the idea along with your simple suggestion. Yet, its not formal like you mentioned so sorry if the idea was a bust. Just trying to help.

Good Luck


Married: 09/26/2008
Aug 06, 2008 at 11:24 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I have an idea that we are doing at out wedding and because we have lived together for 9 years we dont need gifts for the home. So, we are putting a money tree at our reception. We bought a Ficus tree(fake) and have these clips where people can put money or gift cards that way we wont end up with toasters abnd what nots. I hope this helps. Have a wonderful wedding and i hope your lives our blessed.

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