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dinner rehersal who should come?
the grooms side parents are going to be paying for the rehersal and the party is 14 people plus parents, step parents and it equals to be able 22 people. My family are really close but his family is not close where not even half of them are being invited to the wedding. I was thinking that our grandparents should come but he does not know if his will be coming to the wedding. Who is usually invited to the rehersal? this is driving me crazy because his parents do not have alot of money to put into it and the rest of the wedding on on me and my FH. I dont want to feel bad about not inviting someone who should of been there. What happens to the guest who has to travel.

Married: 09/04/2010
Posted On: Aug 13, 2009 at 3:01 PM | Vendors are allowed | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Married: 11/07/2009
Aug 13, 2009 at 3:15 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I've been told that the party and officiant plus parents are at the rehearsal. Anyone who will have a part in the ceremony. including parents of flower girl and ring bearer. Also a lot of people invite close out of town family members. At mine I will have family who flew in who are really close, but not cousins or anything.

Miles Event Management

Miles Event Management
Aug 13, 2009 at 3:56 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Typically the rehearsal dinner is open to everyone who attends the rehearsal since it's immediately following. It's an opportunity for you and your FH to thank your bridal party - including parents/grandparents (sometimes even godparents) and it's a show of appreciation for their time, money and extra efforts helping you on your wedding day. You are not obligated to include other family members since you'll see them the next day at the wedding. If they're not included in the rehearsal, it's appropriate to also exclude them from the rehearsal dinner.

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Norton Chapel @ Keuka College
Aug 14, 2009 at 9:43 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I have seen rehearsal's done in a number of ways. Most typical rehearsals are open to those who attend the rehearsal and often grandparents of the couple. Depending on the budget that couple may extend the invitation to some of their extended family members (godparents, aunts & uncles) Ultimately it depends on what the couple would like and how much the parents of the groom can afford. Guests should understand seeing as they will be attending your ceremony and reception the next day. This is something you should discuss with your in-laws-to-be and family.

Worst case senerio if you would like more guests to attend then his parents would like to pay for then you can ask if it would be ok if you and your fiance pay for the additional guests at the rehearsal.

Lori Cole Events

Lori Cole Events
Aug 14, 2009 at 4:07 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I recommend inviting only the wedding party and their spouses/dates, parents of the bride and groom, grandparents of the bride and groom, and any out of town guests that are staying with any of the above people. You can eliminate inviting the out of town guests IF you can find another family member or friend to play host for them for the rehearsal/dinner. The mistake that I hate to see people make is to invite this aunt...but not that can make it very difficult.
Aug 15, 2009 at 12:34 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
It's always nice to invite the officiant, and it's appreciated. Most often, however, the officiant will decline (unless it's a very casual BBQ/picnic/potluck kind of dinner) I always try to be very aware of the costs involved in my clients' celebrations, and would rather that extra $ go toward another family member or stay in the benefactor's pocket. Besides, staying for those festivities can be uncomfortable for the wedding party as well as myself.

Arley Ann Laman Studios
Aug 17, 2009 at 11:37 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
If my clients are on a budget, I recommend immediate family and wedding party only (and not their significant others, as they will not attend the rehearsal anyway). Parents, Grandparents, Godparents, Siblings, and Wedding Party.

Please don't worry about offending people because A) They will understand even if they act a little huffy over it, and B) It is your wedding after all!

Married: 05/29/2010
Aug 28, 2009 at 1:05 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
to be honest with you i think that the wedding party should attend the rehearsal dinner but if you choose then you can add you mom and day if you choose
Sep 04, 2009 at 1:54 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
this is a common issue- everyone has a budget!
Only his parents and wedding attendants. If siblings are not in the wedding party, of course them too!
Don't feel bad, it is what it is, and it's supposed to be a pre-celebration with those closest to you.
Those who are traveling don't have to be invited.. that would just be nice if possible, that's all :)

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