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Who pays for the grooms men tuxedos?
My fiance says that it is thier custom for the bride and groom to pay for the grooms men tuxedo. I had never seen that done in any of our weddings. My bridesmaids are all paying for thier dresses and they were not economic.... We are paying for this wedding ourselves and I think they should pay for thier own tuxedos. Am I wrong according to etiquette???

Married: 03/14/2009
Posted On: Nov 11, 2008 at 5:54 PM | Add to My Watchlist | Flag As Inappropriate

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Married: 03/21/2009
Reviews: 8
Nov 11, 2008 at 6:14 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
You are absolutely right - unless paying for the groomsmen tuxes is your gift to them for being in the wedding they would normally pay for their own tuxes. Most attendants expect to pay for their outfits, so don't sweat it!

Married: 11/05/2011
Nov 11, 2008 at 7:09 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
According to etiquette you are suppose to pay for the tux, but then again you have to remember that that rule was probably written over 100 years ago. In the 21st centery groomsmen should pay for their own tux.

Married: 03/21/2009
Reviews: 7
Nov 11, 2008 at 7:47 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
According to etiquette and my wedding planner guide all attendants are suppose to pay for their own stuff.

Married: 04/10/2009
Reviews: 5
Nov 11, 2008 at 11:29 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I agree the whole etiquette deal was prob written a long time ago...if I went by that we are totally doing it wrong at our wedding. Depends on your situation...i was all for the grooms paying for it my fiance is the one that felt bad having them pay for something that they can't keep so he's paying for them....past few weddings we've been a part of the guys have been responsible for renting their own tux

Married: 09/13/2008
Reviews: 5
Nov 12, 2008 at 7:40 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I have been in alot of weddings & the BP always had to pay for their own things. Of course if you have the $$$ to do something like buying/renting all of your attendants attire that's wonderful. I have also turned down the honor of being in someone's wedding when I could not afford to participate (with no hard feelings, I might add). So nowadays it is expected for the BP to take care of their own attire.

Married: 12/20/2008
Nov 13, 2008 at 12:13 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
i agree that they should take care of their own tuxedos. My fiance and i are having the Bridal Party take care of their own attire. If your Brides Maids are doing it, they can too!

Good Luck!

Married: 05/23/2009
Nov 15, 2008 at 8:21 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
This is also a dilemma of mine. We are paying for the wedding ourselves too and doing things as cheap as we can because we just dont have thousands and thousands of dollars to spend on our wedding but I also think its wrong for me to ask these people to be in our wedding and then say "oh by the way, we need you to shell out $100.00 or so for a tux you will only wear for one day" so my fiance has decided that with his tax check this year he will use that for the tux rentals. Our attendants simply cant afford to pay for a tux and to be honest we dont want to choose someone else just because they cant afford it. These are the people we want by our sides no matter what.

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