You really can’t do anything without choosing a date, right?! I bet that gets covered in “Getting Engaged 101″… a class, oddly enough, not offered in college. So here’s my attempt to cover the course material if there ever will be such a thing.
How did we decide on our date? Since we started dating on 9/22/02 and wanted a date close to that, we went with 9/19/09. Plus, it kind of has a ring to it! On a sentimental note, my grandparents’ wedding anniversary was September 14thand they made it 50 + years. Our wedding day is also the same day as one of our groomsman’s birthday so that will be an added element that we can have fun with!
If you are newly engaged and need to find the date that is right for you, I would recommend considering the following:
1. Do you want the date to have some significant relevance to when you both started dating? Or maybe it will be the date/month of a special time in your relationship… including the day you got engaged! You may want to have it fall close to or on the Summer Solstice, Winter Solstice, Spring Equinox, or Autumn Equinox.
2. Would you like your wedding to be close to a holiday so you can have a long weekend? Keep in mind that this may create a challenge for your guests as the cost of flying can increase around the holidays as well as the amount of other travelers trying to get to their destinations. If scheduling time off from work/school is a challenge, look for dates that fall around a break in school or a long holiday weekend. This can be especially helpful if you will be booking your honeymoon immediately following your wedding. It’s just a matter of weighing the pros and cons.
3. Avoiding months where you celebrate – what feels like – a million birthdays may also be something to consider. You may even want to avoid both of your birthday months altogether. Or maybe having it on one of your birthdays will be easier to remember. It’s all about what works best for you after all.
4. What do you want the temperature to be like? Is hot and humid or cool and breezy what you want? Or maybe the thought of a cold winter day for your nuptials is what floats your boat. Thinking about this also opens up the question of your location. Will you have a destination wedding? And if so, what are the really hot and humid months? You will also want to know when the hurricane season takes place. Your travel costs may be cheaper, but you do run the risk of Mother Nature interrupting your plans.
5. “Off-peak” months will get you a better deal with reception sites and with vendors. We’ve been told that Memorial Day to Columbus Day is the “prime time” for weddings. Many vendors are claiming that more and more couples are booking during the off-peak months to gain extra savings. You can also consider having your wedding on a weekday. If your budget is a major concern, I say go for the better deal! You will get the same quality; it’s just a different time of year. You can also choose your date based on your favorite season.
6. Depending on where you live, you may experience the issue of having more or less daylight during different seasons. Keep in mind that the season in which you have your wedding can impact the time of your ceremony and reception. Any good photographer will be able to help you figure out how to set a ceremony and reception time to maximize the daylight hours and maybe even catch the sunset!
7. If you want to have an outdoor wedding the weather will become even more important. It can affect what kind of wedding dress you choose, the types of food you serve (nothing like a hot soup when it’s 90 degrees and humid, right??), the flowers you want (some are seasonal) and anything else that isn’t protected from the elements.
BLOG FUN FACTS:
In the northern hemisphere, June has always been the most popular choice of month in which to hold a wedding, but what most people don’t realize is that history has some origins in this.
During the 1400-1500s when the weather started to approach its summer’s peak, the majority of the population would have their annual bath. With everyone smelling nice and fresh it made getting married in June a pretty good idea. May was out of the question as in the times of the Romans, the Feast of the Dead and the Festival of the Goddess of Chastity were held then and so it was considered to be bad luck.
There was also a poem that would supposedly determine the strength of the marriage depending on which month you were married in.
“Married when the year is new, he’ll be loving, kind and true;
When February birds do mate, you wed nor dread your fate;
If you wed when March winds blow, joy and sorrow both you’ll know;
Marry in April when you can, joy for Maiden and for Man;
Marry in the month of May, and you’ll surely rue the day;
Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you will go;
Those who in July do wed, must labor for their daily bread;
Whoever wed in August be, many a change is sure to see;
Marry in September’s shrine, your living will be rich and fine;
If in October you do marry, love will come but riches tarry;
If you wed in bleak November, only joys will come, remember;
When December snows fall fast, marry and true love will last”.
Fun Fact Source: http://www.funfacts.com.au/wedding-traditions-trivia-history-origins/