Julianne and Navin were married in both an American and Indian ceremony Tower Hill Botanical Garden in Boylston, Mass. on July 6. “From the beautifully landscaped grounds to the multiple breathing greenhouses, our chosen venue was one-of-a-kind,” Julianne said. The Indian ceremony was first featuring a vibrant red and orange color scheme while the American ceremony was second featuring a lavender and sage green color scheme. Cocktail hour was in between. One of the bride’s favorite moments was “when we recited our personal vows,” she said.”But then, the next day, my grandmother told me it was one of the best weddings that she had ever been to, and my grandfather was sore from dancing too much.” Doesn’t that make your heart melt? One of the groom’s favorite moments? His bride! The reception was decorated with all white circular tables and chiavari chairs, burlap table runners, and tall floral centerpieces, and table names named after flowers.
Old, New, Borrowed, & Blue: How to Make Old Traditions New
Weddings are chalk full of traditions. Really, a wedding ceremony itself — with the symbolic wedding rings, vows, aisles, white wedding gowns, and a following wedding reception — is all tradition. So, when bride’s start to question if they want to have a “traditional” wedding, by having a wedding it is traditional. But, the little traditional details can of course be picked over to cater to the bride’s beliefs and wants, and each of these traditions can be modified and otherwise modernized. One of the more fun and widely known traditions comes from the Victorian rhyme “Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a silver sixpence in your shoe,” listing the popular traditions and superstitions of the time. These traditions pulled together as one is a popular tradition today that is easily tweaked and made unique for the bride-to-be.
What do they mean? The something old in this tradition is meant symbolically link the bride to her heritage and past, a past that then looks forward. The something new is this looking forward: It is a symbol of looking to the future with optimism. Then something borrowed is meant to represent borrowing happiness. The intention is that the bride would borrow something from a woman in a happy marriage and borrowing something from her would then bring happiness and longevity to the marriage of the new bride. Next, something blue is a symbol of good fortune and fidelity. And finally, the sixpence in your shoe is supposed to bring prosperity to the marriage.
The age old tradition that still lives! Something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue!
Nowadays, there are so many ways to incorporate these things into your wedding. From nail polish to sewing a blue patch into your dress, to blue “I do” sequins on your shoes. All of these are supposed to be just a good luck charm, but there needs to be some significance to decide what you’re going to carry with you (or wear) on your wedding day.
I’ll tell you my items, if you tell me yours.
My old and borrowed were actually the same item, a pearl necklace that my husband’s grandmother gave to me. I matched all of my jewelry to go along with it, and even my veil had some pearls sewn in.
My new, this one seems the easiest to me, was literally my veil down to my shoes! I couldn’t even list you ladies all of the things!
And last, my something blue. I thought this idea was super unique and really fun, it was my pedicure (which even lasted through the honeymoon).
How did you ladies decide what to use? Was it the significance behind the item or was it just a quick decision to fill this tradition?
The suggestion that a bride should have “something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue” is one of the oldest adhered to modern wedding traditions. It asks a bride to combine good luck charms from the heritage of her family, her new future with her partner and the successful marriages of her friends and family. It’s a rhyme that many couples still try to adhere to with many families having “something old, new, borrowed, and blue” traditions of their own. My family has been passing the same pair of white wedding sunglasses from bride to bride for ten years as our “something borrowed,” and it’s worked as a good luck charm so far! But if you’re having a hard time adhering to the parameters of this adage, here are a few suggestions for the two suggestions that are the hardest to fill – something “old” and something “borrowed”:
“Something old” is a requirement of the adage that asks brides to carry a token from the heritage of their families. Some brides choose instead to carry something from their partner’s family to show a new connection with the history of their family tree. Either option is meaningful, and even something you found from an antique store carries with it it’s own history. Thoughts:
Earrings and necklaces work well, but make sure you have clasps inspected and repaired by jewelers before you walk down the aisle. Also, check aged lace and metals against the fabric of your gown to make sure the antiqued colors don’t look harsh and aged against the rest of your outfit
The elastic of garters tends to deteriorate quickly, even if it seems to be in perfect condition. The last thing you want is for an antique garter to snap before you even make it to the reception. Choose instead something that you can be sure won’t slip off by the end of the evening.
The point here is to find a good luck charm from the happy marriages of the couples around you. While some families have traditions specific to them (such as my family’s famous “wedding sunglasses”), it’s always the right time to start a new tradition. Thoughts:
1. A New Take on “Borrowed”
Instead of wearing a bracelet or headpiece that was borrowed from a friend or family member, consider instead “borrowing” a wedding detail from their day to highlight your own. Dance to the song used as your parent’s first dance, or use your grandmother’s secret jam recipe for the favors. This creative twist will keep you from loading up with old, new, borrowed and blue jewelry for lack of a better option. Even though you won’t be wearing your “borrowed” items, you will have a chance to adhere to the tradition while giving it your own modern twist
2. Expensive or Breakable Items.
Though it is sweet that your great aunt wants you to borrow her expensive diamond cuff bracelet for your ceremony, consider the risk of losing such an item. The conditions of “borrowing” mean that you intend to return the item, so be wary of asking for or accepting offers of delicate or valuable items. This goes for fabrics too. Borrowed dresses, veils and linens attract chocolate and red wine. If anything does happen, be sure to cover the dry cleaning bill!