Elizabeth & Matt
Sandy Spring, Maryland
Q & A with the Bride:
Which three details from your wedding were your favorites?
1. My husband, who is not an overly romantic man, suggested that it might be neat to create maps of the exact location of the stars for certain significant moments of our relationship and use these as table markers. He made these beautiful star maps for the day we met, the day we bought our house, the day we got engaged, etc. I saved them and framed them, and now they hang in our bedroom. One caught fire during the wedding after it fell onto a candle, and I was the first who noticed. I ran over, grabbed it off the table, and started stepping on it in an attempt to put the fire out – nearly igniting my wedding dress in the process. Later, we realized the one that caught fire was the map immortalizing our disastrous first date. I love that the framed version shows off the scorch marks.
It drove me nuts when people told me that my wedding day would be “perfect” and “the best day of my life.” Our wedding reflected who we are, the reality of our life together, which is pretty great but definitely not perfect. Those little scorch marks are a nice reminder that it’s important to keep a sense of reality and proportion in life.
2. We walked down the aisle together, instead of meeting at the altar. For me, this was an important symbol that we were entering into this together, as partners and equals. We’re a bit older, and we’ve lived together for years, so I didn’t want to be “given away.”
3. On the whole, our wedding was done on a budget. But I splurged and flew in a special musician from Boston for the day without telling Matt. He has this weird love for an obscure Irish instrument call the uilleann pipes, but no one in the area plays them. I found a guy who agreed to fly down just for the ceremony, and I will never forget the look on Matt’s face, just before we started down the altar, when he heard the haunting notes of the pipes coming from the garden. Totally worth it!
Give us the one moment in your wedding day you can’t stop thinking about.
Is it wrong to say my favorite part was actually the rehearsal dinner? The night before, we threw a big BBQ at our house for all the guests, not just family. We ordered in Bosnian food, because that’s where we met, and hung up a piñata and showed off our snazzy new house to all the family and friends who had flown in. The best part was when we lit our “unity volcano.” On one of our first dates, I showed up at Matt’s place with the makings of a homemade volcano, because I’d never made one as a kid and wanted to remedy that. He loved how nerdy and random that was. We built an epic volcano for the wedding, complete with a Lego bride and groom and tons of lava. Lighting up that bad boy was the ultimate way to initiate our guests into our wonderful and weird world.
I also enjoyed the very end of the evening at our wedding, after the dinner and the toasts and the dancing. We put out a box of cigars and a couple bottles of scotch, and we all dragged chairs into the lawn under the stars. I finally got to do what I had really wanted to do all day – sit down, enjoy my guests, and hang out.