The saying “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure” is doubly correct in the world of sudden wedding disasters. On the day of your nuptials, many things will be out of your control, but keeping these four common problems in check is easy if you just do a little planning ahead.
So, what should you do if…
You’re Worried About Long/Inappropriate Speeches During the Reception:
The best thing you can do (without seeming fussy and demanding), is limit the amount of time set aside of speeches (also, trust your MC). Tell whoever is giving a speech at your reception how much time they should allot for their heartfelt ramblings, and during your pre-wedding meeting with the person who will run the microphone on your big day (probably the band leader or the DJ), relay that time allotment to them and provide a list of scheduled speakers. To avoid an hour’s worth of mic-passing, have a time at your rehearsal dinner for extended speeches from the rest of the bridal party.
You’re Fearing the Antics of Drunken Relatives:
If you’re having heart palpitations just thinking about your mother getting near an open bar, think about letting your venue (or bartender, if you’re hiring outside of the venue’s services) know about your concerns. They should be cutting someone off if they don’t look like they can handle any more alcohol, but give them permission to close shop to anyone who gets a little too rowdy. If you don’t want to single anyone out, plan to have an open bar only when food is available, and close everything up a few hours before guests leave. If you don’t think any amount of limiting will solve your family’s wine and beer enthusiasm, there’s no harm in a dry reception!
You’re Worried About Punctuality:
If your main concern is that the florist won’t show up in time for you to walk down the aisle, or that your perpetually-late fiancé will waltz down the aisle 30 minutes after the music starts, your best bet is communication and a physical timeline. As for your vendors, ensure the punctual arrival of your centerpieces and edible bridesmaids gifts by keeping lines of communication open up until the day-of. Make sure your caterer is 100% sure of the wedding timeline, and don’t be afraid to go over it more than once. Account for travel time, travel time with traffic, and everything that could possibly go wrong. Write everything out, including times you WANT people in places (not just when they HAVE to be there), and make sure everyone gets a copy of the timeline that needs one.
You’re Anxious About Some Inevitable Family Fights:
To avoid explosive arguments between factions of your social group that seem to be brewing already, your best friend is the seating chart. If you aren’t planning on having a seating chart, make one anyway. You have control over the flow and mood of your reception space; use that control. If your uncle hates his ex-wife, but they’re both a big part of your life, take fate out of the equation and seat them far, far away from one another. Seating charts are life-savers for toxic family feuds, and they give you an excuse to use cute escort card holders.