On Making Decisions Together…

Posted by rnewton on Dec 10, 2009

So you’re engaged, and now you are planning your wedding!  How exciting!

But what are you both arguing about?  You want to get married in a hip loft, and he prefers the swankiness of the St. Regis.  His family wants children to be at the reception, and he supports that, yet you envision an adults only evening.  And why doesn’t he like your BFF Joan?  She’s going to be your maid of honer.

You can argue about each point you disagree on.  Obviously not a great solution.  Or you can concede, “whatever you want, my love.”  But this kind of avoidance isn’t realistic or constructive.

bride-and-groom kiss

So here’s something to chew on:  your wedding is the first “major life event” for which you will need to make decisions as a team.  It’s the first of many, including events such as children, buying a home, relocations, career changes and more.  It’s a great time to figure out how you will make decisions together. 

There will be a lot of things you disagree on, and being able to deal with them in a cooperative manner is critical.  Figure this one out and planning your wedding will be a lot more pleasurable, and you will have moved far forward on the road to wedded bliss!

Photo courtesy of 1314 Studio.