While we like to consider ourselves modern gals, there are some new trends that we just can’t get behind. The practice of including registry or other gift preferences on one’s wedding invitation is still a big ‘no-no’ in our book.
“Now come on!” you might say. “Everyone knows that you’re supposed to give gifts at a wedding and aren’t we making things easier on our guests by providing them with our registry information?”
Nope. No way. Even on occasions where gifts are appreciated, or even expected, in our opinion it’s just plain tacky to imply that you require a guest to bring a gift as “admission” to your celebration. Weddings are an excellent example of “expected” gift-giving occasions. And while we certainly appreciate and take advantage of the convenience of gift registries, etiquette dictates that references to our gift preferences must be carefully chosen and discreet.
That’s not to say you have to rely solely on word of mouth to clue your guests in to where to find your china pattern and sheet sizes. An excellent option for the modern bride is to include a dainty accessory card with the invitation guiding guests to your wedding website, where it’s much more appropriate to provide links to or contact information for store registries.
This strategy keeps the bridezilla-esque reference to gifts off the invitation while directing guests to a helpful resource for information on everything from hotel options and driving directions to – yes – registry information.
Now if only we could find a tactful way to keep Aunt Louella from wrapping up that ugly swan vase as your wedding gift and passing it off as a “family heirloom” …