Ditching Traditions

Posted by violet on Sep 14, 2012

I have considered myself a pretty traditional bride in comparison to some of the weddings that I’ve seen lately.  My dress is about as traditional as a dress can get, and for the most part, I haven’t steered away from other normal wedding traditions.  I intend to have my dad walk me down the aisle, throw the bouquet and carry something old, new, borrowed and blue.  However, there are a lot of minor details about our wedding that I think are a little on the non-traditional side:

1. We aren’t doing floral centerpieces.  Since our colors are blue and teal, it made it kind of difficult to find blue flowers that were the right shade.  My centerpieces will be a later post, but just know that they will not have a single silk or real flower on them!

2. We are (still considering…aka still trying to convince Violet Dude) going to have cupcakes instead of a cake.  I know this isn’t a HUGE deal, since a lot of brides are considering doing single cakes for each table, cheesecakes or cupcakes, but Violet Dude has a bit of a difficult time letting go of the traditional, white wedding cake.

3. We are also ditching some registries for other registries like Lowes and a honeymoon fund.

4. We’re definitely breaking from family traditions to do this: we’re not getting married in a church, which is becoming more common.

4. The biggest decision we’ve made as far as breaking from traditions was one that I really had to fight for: I didn’t want to walk down the aisle to the bridal march.  Don’t get me wrong, it’s a beautiful song, but it’s just a bit old and outdated for me.  I wanted something that said, “she’s walking down the aisle to marry the love of her life.” Not, “here comes the bride, all dressed in white.”

So, we sat down one night and went through a list of songs that I found that could possibly be good songs to walk down the aisle to.  I really wanted “Here Comes the Sun” by the Beetles because ever since we began dating, if one of us is having a bad day, we’ll leave a note with “You are my sunshine” lyrics written on it.  Violet Dude wasn’t a huge fan of my Beetles pick, so we continued listening to songs.  It’s kind of funny, because all along I had an idea in my head but I didn’t think he would really go for it.  Finally, I decided to play “the” song, and it turned out that he absolutely loved it!

The song itself was written for Twilight, and although I have read the books and seen the movies, I wasn’t really a huge fan of my wedding being associated with teenage fiction.  We both decided, however, that the song fit and worked so well that it made sense to use it.  My other issue with it was because the song is 5 minutes long–how would we differentiate the break in the song from when the bridesmaids are walking down the aisle to when the audience needs to stand up as I walk down the aisle?  I’m hoping that by closing the doors after the ‘maids walk down, the audience will understand that I’m about to come and will rise.

So, without ranting on and on about the intricacies of having a non-traditional bridal entrance song…here it is:

A Thousand Years by Christina Perri